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Aromatherapy and Ayurveda Favorites

2008-12-04T13:21:00.000-08:00

What Kind of Ayurvedics would suit you? There's a quiz from a previous blog on this topic. Pretty interesting stuff: http://dmfengshuilife.blogspot.com/2008/10/ayurveda-approach.html

I am often asked which Ayurvedic and Aromatherapy products I like. I like the combination of proven herbs and gentle pure products. One style does not fit all, but here are some of my favorite products:

For Aromatherapy: Arbonne: http://helpingfriends.myarbonne.com/

Arbonne Seasource Detox Spa Full Set

Arbonne Sea Salt Scrub exfoliating action of dead surface cells revealing brighter, healthier-looking skin Key Ingredients: Avocado and sweet almond extract with the pure and beneficial essential oils of Lemon Oil, with bright aromatic properties that increase vitality and awareness. and
Coriander which uplifts the spirit and senses, and adds an inviting scent

Amazon has a nice selection of most ayurvedic suppliers, so I start there-- and keep a list of favorite products in the health store. Bazaar of India is one of them, but there are multiple suppliers online.

Banyan Botanicals Ashwagandha Bala Oil
Banyan Botanicals Mental Clarity if I can't find
Vadik Brahmi
Planetary Herbals Triphala
Vadik Herbs Arjun

Ayurveda Approach

2008-10-26T19:59:00.000-07:00

I am a Kapha in Body, Pitta in Mind. What are you? Take the quiz and find out.

BODY Kapha: Water and Earth In balance, Kapha creates calmness, sweetness, and loyalty.
Out of balance, the Kapha type can cause weight gain, congestion, and resistance to healthy change.
Health Tips: http://health.indiamart.com/ayurveda/kapha-dosh.html

MIND Pitta: Fire and Water In balance, a Pitta is warm, intelligent, and a good leader.
Out of balance, the Pitta can be critical, irritable, and aggressive.
Characteristics: http://www.holisticonline.com/ayurveda/ayv-pitta-characteristics.htm
Best Diet: http://hubpages.com/hub/The_Best_Diet_For_Pitta_Dosha_Type
Food Selection: http://www.ehow.com/how_4489323_select-foods-pitta-ayurvedic-type.html

Detox Diet:

Eat: http://altmedicine.about.com/od/detoxcleansing/a/Foods_Eat.htm

Avoid: http://altmedicine.about.com/od/detoxcleansing/a/Foods_Avoid_2.htm

Psychic Empathy and Magnetism...

2008-06-05T06:26:00.000-07:00

For about 3 weeks I have been short circuiting and killing the appliances I love.. Light switches, another KVM Switch, 2 cell phone chargers, possibly a phone, a car alarm, and a laptop. I do not understand this situation, and found it rather inconvenient to have to keep replacing things I melted-- it makes me feel broken.. and unfixable.

Okay so in my day job I am way busy. The kids are needing some attention... and the Helping Friends Career Network is really making it's stride. All exciting and positive things, and yet magnetism is creating discomfort.

This discomfort takes the form of physical and mental discontent. While I am "ultra" magnetic, I also wrestle with a sense of "activity" while I experience a host of activities that must be sorted and ordered. Once ordered, there are some activities, I feel compelled to offer loving intention to.. There are other activities or 'unpleasant' truths that must be spoken, and I am receiving the words to share them... And then there is the giddy sort of news -- an exciting sense of well being that though someone is in their darkest, lightness is coming, and they just need to affirm that sense of well ness.

I have yet to encounter a resource for managing this gift and it's inconveniences-- well nothing more than patience. I have become willing to adjust medically, physically or balance stress better. I value as do others, my ability to sense, to communicate, and to motivate.

There is discomfort. This is unpleasant. This feels broken. Why can't I be normal? Such is the dance-- of abandonment, of guilt, of failure, and of taking that in stride. The discomfort will continue until I have taken the appropriate actions, however the actions, and sometimes the experiences I am receiving, are just unclear enough to create unpleasantry, without a face-- a sort of confusion to whether the experience I feel is my own or someone else's. Sometimes it is one situation or the other, possibly the pain from a previous experience helps me to connect and care about helping others to resolution.

3 interesting lessons this week:

1. We can all be more loving and open about our intentions and expressing the good in others.
2. We all need to love and be loved to feel in balance, so why do we waste time in unproductive fear, worry, uncertainty, sarcasm, or doubt.
3. So much of our life experience could be made better by simply respecting and caring for one another more than our homage to our ego.

A dramatic week, 3 of my friends are now working. I am getting to work with a bunch of interesting folks now- jobseekers and hiring managers-- we are finding one another and unique benefit to our collaboration.

Barack Obama gave a moving speech on setting clear intentions and activity to recognize the change we want to see begins with us.

THEN one of my dear colleagues, a supporter of all people, communicated an intention of committing suicide. I shudder thinking that this dear man , who is smart, articulate, helpful, warm, and compassionate, would die before knowing how much he was truly loved..

And for this day, I have decided to be the light I wish to see that does not blow out for the surge of energy, I will choose to be as consistent a source of love, of compassion and of optimism as I can be.. We all need this, and perhaps the greatest poverty is that feeling that no one cares what we say, or do..

Memorial Day 21 Years Later....

2008-05-30T20:01:00.000-07:00

Memorial-- a blend of integration and peace with past, and seeing the present for what it is... More like an "onion" with many layers, than a solid mass of consistent reality.

Resources:

MEMORIAL DAY 21 YEARS LATER: Forgiveness is more than healing, it is finding a completeness in acceptance and transcendance. Circle of life.. circle of pain... the key is in recognizing when you are traversing a path, and when you are creating a circle.

It was around memorial day weekend some 21 years ago, when I survived the violent assault at the hands of a stranger--a Vietnam Veteran in some sort of drug induced, recurring Post Traumatic Stress Disorder event. You know that it was not until this Memorial Day that my father and I talked about it over coffee... The importance of caring, really caring for one another, and our soldiers..

Dad told me about his Army service in Germany.. Of my Grandpa's service in WW2.. and I could finally tell a family member in my immediate family something I thought I never could about understanding the situation of what happens when you are forced to fight to survive..

It would take me some time to be able to understand that responsibility we have to care for one another... and what could happen when we fail to recognize and act on the perception that all is not well.

Healing from my assault was something I was pretty sure might never happen.. that I would be forever broken... In retrospect, and time, I found a forgiveness.. Forgiveness of a man who never got the care he needed, a man who apparently suffers much and must continue to fight a war and take hostages for interrogation, to survive. I wonder what his family might have been like.. I wondered what happened that would cause a person to have lost so much, that it was easier to kill or be killed.

On Memorial Day, I choose not to war for peace.
I choose radical forgiveness and the optimism to define and act on better conditions.

I forgive "Bear" the soldier who fatigued himself, medicated himself, and still lived an unthinkable horror that played out in his mind so strong that all around him might feel his pain. He served our country, and probably gave alot for the time he was in Vietnam. Some came back with more of a burden than others.. It was not a contest, it was a reality to be managed.

I forgive myself for not being smarter when I was clearly out muscled. I tried to face recovery, as did my attacker, to fatigue and medicate myself to survive the trauma, that I was certain was way bigger than what I could handle. Before "Bear", I had not heard of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder-- we did not talk about that sort of thing.

From this experience, I have appreciated a new freedom, and a new happiness.. The sort of thing that comes from not regretting the past, nor wishing to shut the door on it... To be able to love, regardless of experience, to forgive others and to give for others to see a more optimistic possibility and reminder that they have way more capacity for love and recovery than they give themselves credit for.

Optimistically Visionary

2008-03-16T05:12:00.000-07:00

There is much wisdom to be learned from our attachment to what we perceive as our truth.
Truth is true, it is real, and it does not require agreement to be so.. It just is. It exists with many other truths., as much as it stands alone.

In our work, most of us enjoy being appreciated for our subject matter expertise. We pride ourselves in our vision, our experience, and our ability to detect and manage marketing or opreational issues for profitability. In business we sometimes feel like our success is contingent upon influencing others to see the issues that you are bringing with intention of mitigating the risk, the discomfort and inconvenience of the matter at hand.

A professional rub occurs for us in business when we perceive a threat that requires vision and strategy to correct, and instead the issue gets brushed aside, decommited, or unmanaged. Does this make the issue any less a truth? No of course not..

Could it be that we have values beyond that which we think we bring, that others appreciate about us. With or without our attachment to positive results, there is that feeling of belonging and being valued.

So how then can we detach our personal investment to recognize that influence and change can be gained by inspiring others to look beyond the present limitations to embrace a view for what might be possible. The truth is that meaningful change is rarely 'convenient" or "easy", but part of our professional drama appreciates the struggle.

Let us not however get so stuck in the limitations that we fail to recognize our own capacity for creating prosperity and productivity in any economy by simply working the issues and opportunities, one at a time, with consistency.

In order to experience Freedom and harmony..

2008-03-14T01:42:00.000-07:00

Freefalling to space, she thought about how long she had fallen, tht she only has 2 more lengths of climbing material, and yet she fell silently to earth, landing on feet.

Sometimes we overestimate the negative logic and limit ourselves to only fear and worry.
Yes it's real, but so is it's optimistic alternative.

Gluten Free Pride..

2008-02-22T12:15:00.000-08:00

Do I have Celiac? Check out this checklist.
Autoimmune Symptoms Checklist.

Fascinating People with Gluten Intolerance:

Resources On Living with Gluten Intolerance:

About.com Food Allergies and Depression
Brain Fog/Fatigue
Depression
Early Signs of GI (Picky Eaters)
Endometriosis
NIDDK
Panic Attacks
SureFoodsLiving has loads of fabulous resources online for living large not missing a bit o gluten.

Ayurvedic delights.

2008-02-20T23:39:00.000-08:00

Ayurvedic References I like:

Ayurvedic Roots and Herbs Reference
Benefits of Ayurveda Blog
Improving Endometriosis.
Improving Hair Health.
Shaktiveda - Dr Mary Jo Cravatta can assist, even from a distance using "Messenger Pulse".

HERBAL REFERENCES:
* Arjun - Heart.
Ashwaganda - Improving Energy. Blood Levels..
* Brahmi - Memory, Stress.
* Jatamansi - Sleep, Improved Hair health.
* Triphala - Digestive regularity.

Getting rid of what's unneeded to welcome what's needed

2008-01-13T07:05:00.001-08:00

It is the first week of the Detox Diet- no potential allergens, allows the liver to cleanse itself and work more effectively. I have lost 5 pounds this week.

Week 2 gets more challenging, starting today. I am not a great fan of powdered, reconstituted drinks, so I have modified the diet to combine my breakfast and lunch fruit snacks, opting instead for a fruit smoothie-- no dairy on this diet, so I mix it with almond milk or herbal tea... any way I blend it with my favorite variety of frozen fruits.

Here is the week's plan:

SUNDAY: Superwoman Workout- circuit and fast track with high stepping. Well Being Thought of the Day.

Breakfast: 2 scoops rice powder blended smoothie with frozen fruit, carob, almond milk.
Lunch: 2 scoop smoothie and steamed broccoli with flaxseed oil.
Snack: 2 scoop smoothie.
Dinner: Steamed Rice and baby peas with flaxseed oil.

MONDAY: Run. Meditation: Find Peace of Mind.

Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
Lunch 2 scoop smoothie. Spinach Salad with raw green beans and carrots.
Snack: 2 scoop smoothie.
Dinner: Steamed broccoli, cauliflower, and carrots with olive oil and garlic vinegar.

TUESDAY: Tale of the Tape Tuesday. Meditation: Embracing Change Joyfully.

Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
Lunch: 2 scoop smothie. Herb salad with carrot.
Snack: Melon and berries.
Dinner: Baked acorn squash

WEDNESAY: Terrific Training workout and check in with my trainer. Well Being Thought of the Day

Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
Lunch: 2 scoop smothie. Steamed Broccoli and Green Beans.
Snack: Melon and berries.
Dinner: Steamed Rice and Spinach.

THURSDAY: Light Cardio or Yoga. Meditation: How to Meditate.

Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
Lunch: 2 scoop smoothie and steamed broccoli with flaxseed oil.
Snack: 2 scoop smoothie.
Dinner: Steamed Rice and baby peas with flaxseed oil.

FRIDAY: Light Cardio or Yoga. Inspiration Intention: Still the Mind, Stoke the Fitness Motivation.

Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
Lunch 2 scoop smoothie. Spinach Salad with raw green beans and carrots.
Snack: 2 scoop smoothie.
Dinner: Steamed broccoli, cauliflower, and carrots with olive oil and garlic vinegar.

SATURDAY: Light Cardio or Yoga Well Being Thought of the Day

Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
Lunch: 2 scoop smothie. Herb salad with carrot.
Snack: Melon and berries.
Dinner: Baked acorn squash

Creating Home and Warmth..

2007-11-21T16:56:00.000-08:00

Homeless headlines do not have to be: We Can Make a Difference.

How to really make a difference.

Tips for How to Help.
How to Help a Family in Need Celebrate the Holidays
How to help the Shelters.
How to Volunteer at the Soup Kitchens
Help the Homeless Program
ONE The Campaign to Make Poverty History.

The Universe is alive and well..

2007-11-20T03:39:00.000-08:00

I needed to get up early today, it was a choice I made last night.. one that will help me be prepared for the holidays. The challenge is that my sleep patterns have not been conducive to working from a schedule since pain and exhaustion seem to accompany "waking" hours or "waking me up" for hours.

Grateful to have a full night's sleep and not wake in pain! Delighted to have a call from my dear friend Carol who was alight with living life in balance and inspiration... Then a call from KJ, who affirmed for me to "trust" and to "be"-- I have the council I need, I just need to invest more trusting optimism that I am loved, I am guided, and all is well.

My husband is a schedule driven performer.. He is able to set an alarm and always wake on time, for anything and everything. Today he woke at 5:30 and I told him to try to wake me, but if I don't move, perhaps I need the sleep. He dutifully woke, and did this before taking part on his morning fitness regimen. I fell asleep.. He kindly let me.

Then at 5:53, the phone rang.. This or my child crying are the two auditory queues that always get my attention, enough to start thinking about what I need to do next. And so it was that a support call coming in for a product that is technically supported during business hours in the U.S. and should not be generating work before I wake, became that universal gift I needed to get going today.

Thank you Universe! All is well and good in the world. I am awake to witness this! AND then came the Abraham-Hicks message of the day: "

The joyous place you may be standing is temporary, and the abhorrent place that you may be standing is temporary. Your now reality is only a temporary, momentary culmination of what youve been thinking about"

Be Happy--- a friendly reminder

2007-10-29T20:19:00.000-07:00

BE HAPPY!

Nice message on YouTube -- Be Happy --by His Eminence, the 12th Tai Situ Rinpoche

Reminds me of a similar message via YouTube video, "Don't Worry, Be Happy", that I know and love as sung by Bobby Mc Ferrin.

Both delivered with a joyful serenity
and open invitation to
please, explore
what being happy means to you, today!

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Ahhhh Autumn in Akron!!

2007-10-26T06:28:00.000-07:00

October 2005: Seems like only yesterday we were dealing with "our baby" and having just moved to OH. Our first year in the Akron Area, Caitlyn dressed up like a little angel.. She was fascinated by the pumpkins, and promptly destroyed them. :D

October 2006: Last fall my little Angel turned Elmo with the careful aid of her big brother Ninja!

Caitlyn understood the drill much more this year, and was able to keep up with the big kids.

The neighborhood is all a buzz on Halloween night and it is such a happy feeling. Elena and Lee up the street are the owners of the home to envy for every school age kid on the block, with their whimiscal Halloween decorations and craftworks that would make Martha Stewart jealous!

October 2007: It will be this stunningly beautiful only a few more days!! Autumn is my favorite seasons, it seems to me magical how leaves so green, can suddenly turn gold and the most shocking scarlet colors, painting the scenery and transforming overnight..

This Halloween year Caitlyn is 3 years old Princess, Kyle is 8 an 8 year old Spryo the Dragon -- a favorite from his video games! Today is my son's party at school. Tonight is my daughters party at day care.

I am hoping the Unicef Trick or Treat for others can's come today, as our neighborhood trick or treat is Sunday.. I guess if it does not arrive in time, then we trick or treat Wednesday for the kids, and we take them to the commercial trick or treat for the Unicef fundraiser. Unicef was my son's idea, and a beautiful one.

Sandy Mitchell did a great on About.com feature
on the celebration of autumn in the Akron OH
area. Stan Hywet Hall and Gardens graces
70 acres of impeccably manicured gardens
against a regal backdrop -- perfect
showcase for the autumn splendors.

Starting to collect healthy holiday recipe ideas

2007-10-19T13:41:00.000-07:00

Looking for lovely holiday recipes that are healthy, gluten free, low in white sugar and unhealthy flours, but still imparting the magic of the holidays.

For Thanksgiving our tradition is tradition-- apple cider or sparkling apple cider- turkey, homemade cranberry sauce, rolls stuffing, mashed potatoes, gravy, and pies for dessert. I am looking for fun ideas to introduce more healthy alternatives to my traditional menu, while still letting our family and guests know that our meals are indeed a labor of love and tasty at the same time.

RESOURCES I FOUND INTERESTING:
Cleveland Clinic Ultimate Thanksgiving Meal Makeover
Lucinda's Gluten Free, but Pretty Traditional Thanksgiving
GlutenFree Girl Blogspot
Karina's Kitchen- Gluten Free Goddess
Ayurveda (Nice Dressing Recipe can be modified-- blend own herbs use GF Bread, etc)
Celiac Sprue Recipes

Recipes I might want to try:

Pumpkin Pie Traditional Calories 299 Fat 13 grams. Improved Calories 146 Fat: 2.4 grams.
Mashed "Potatoes" Traditional Calories 204 Fat 12.3 grams. Cauliflower/Herbal mix 153 Calories, Fat 12 Grams in recipe can be modified using yogurt cheese. 100% fat free if made with nonfat yogurt, but here I think SOME fat is better than none.
MMM Maple Whipped Cream
Holiday Basic GF Gravy Recipe plus chopped onion.
GF Cranberry Bread
Cranberry Sauce

Got ideas? Please feel free to share them!

Feeling Good by Doing Good.. (October Ideas)

2007-10-17T16:47:00.000-07:00

October Tiny tips for Terrific Community and World Wellness. The first in a series of Feeling Good by Doing Good Brainstorming ideas. Please share comments or resources you have found with great ideas and hints for future months!

For October: The weather shifts from warm to cool of autumn.. Wellness is a gift that keeps a warm glow of giving, when shared with others leading up to the holidays. Got family coming for the holidays? A dear friend of mine donates at least a family vacation a year to building communities-- homes, hospitals and schools where needed.. There is much more we can do to create this warm glow of giving, and it starts in October, and can carry you through the new year.. This will be our Feng Shui Series of sort of "being" the change you want to see in the world, through tips and resources..

Get rid of what you don't want, to make room for what you do want.
What can you add to holiday traditions to give a warm and meaningful community glow?
Create a goal of gratitude to share and cultivate a feeling of community.
Create a tradition of meaning that extends your good will.

Our 8 year old and his neighbors are trick or treating for Unicef this year WITH their Halloween, because some kids don't have the health that they enjoy.
For Thanksgiving, our neighbor has a red wagon brigade to collect for the local soup kitchens who need more help and resources than ever in our area!
In preparation for the holidays, cleanout and donate to meaningful charities (local shelters, national or global agencies, Salvation Army) the clothing, blankets and housewares we do not use, to benefit those who do not have them.

Event Ideas and Community Resources:

October- ONE Campaign, Breast Cancer, Domestic Abuse Awareness, Unicef.

ONE Campaign to make Poverty History

Breast Cancer

Domestic Abuse Awareness -- Host a Community Shelter Day/Benefit.

SafeHorizons-- Virtual Shelter Tour/ Help Someone Feel Safe
Yvonne LaRose -- Educator on Domestic Violence.

Unicef -- Good potential ideas during Trick Or Treat OR check out eCards.

6 cents provides water for a thirsty child
$1 can provide immunization for a kid, preventing measles for life
$2 provides nutrition to three hungry kids
$17 can provide immunization for one child for life against the top six child-killing diseases: measles, polio, diphtheria, whooping cough, tetanus and tuberculosi
$52 can provide 2 micro-filters supplying safe needed drinking water to large families or school
$100 can vaccinate 200 children against polio
$150 can provide 2,500 packets of Oral Rehydration Salts to help save the lives of children suffering from diarrheal dehydration due to drinking contaminated water
$176 buys school supplies for 80 kids
$318 can provide a hot air sterilizer for sterilizing medical instruments
$450 can supply warm blankets for 150 children in an emergency
$581 can provide a Supplementary Dry Feeding kit that can feed 500 moderately malnourished children
$750 can buy a sturdy tent for emergency shelter for a family
$880 can supply 5 “School-in-a-Box” kits of educational materials for a teacher & 80 children.

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Helping Friends Guest Bloggers are welcome in October..

2007-09-29T16:34:00.000-07:00

The Helping Friends Career Network honors those professionals in our network who are professional leaders in their trade, and strong survivors of Breast Cancer. In the honor of these strong people and our community, we honor the time and opportunity that friendship affords our community well being.

Thank you for Being a Friend, and join us as:

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month!

This year, an estimated 40,460 women will die from breast cancer in the United States alone. Death rates from breast cancer have been declining thanks to earlier detection screening, increased awareness, and improved treatment.

The key to a cancer survivor's success is 53-63% improved with early detection and treatment. Healthcare becomes an important issue. Throughout the month of October, we will share stories, news, events and tips for supporting our friends who have been there and survived, or are facing cancer today.

If you would like to be a guest blogger during this month, we would welcome blog stories of inspiration, help, tips for working while undergoing treatment, professional tips for cancer survivors, telecommuting stories, etc.

RESOURCES:

Breast Cancer and the Work Place (Diet, Nutrition, Coping, Self Care, Exercise)
Helping A Friend With Breast Cancer
How you Can Help (UK based Breast Cancer Campaign)
I'm2YoungForThis.org
Susan G. Komen Foundation

Contact me via Plaxo, if you are interested in participating and sharing stories or resources. We empower people by being a community who is actively caring, sharing and helping one another!

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Deliberate Creation, The law of attraction, or grumpiness.

2007-09-25T04:15:00.000-07:00

I pride myself on my ability to see clearly and deliver despite turmoil and disruption. When I say I will do something, I generally have the primary and fall back plans in place, but let me be perfectly honest.. the fall back plan is generally me doing alot of work at the end to produce a product that has had inadequate participation. Perhaps for me the lesson is in the choice.

Working late last night because some part of me believes that if someone else fails, I can still prevail on time, on budget, and in perfect harmony. Okay it was a nice thought, but a nicer thought was that card I pulled from the Teachings of Abraham Well Being deck today.
"When you have a problem, a desire exudes forth from you, and Source hears it and answers immediately. Once you remove your attention from the problem, you then allow the solution. Give birth to the question and let it go-- and follow the answer to the flow."

My interpretation of the matter is this: "The problem I am trying to solve is x, the question I ask is how to solve x. Perhaps that is not the problem.. My belief around efforting and earning, paying the price, and work might be the better study, if it becomes my source of grumpiness. Why grumpiness? Because I am trying so hard to make more productive choices, and to allow a more flexible approach to unveil.. Doing so respectfully, realistically, and directly, I find myself grumpy that it seems my objectives are being compromised by others actions.

Maybe I need to ask a different question. In any case, the universe seems to know my needs whether or not I am clear in the asking:

This morning's Abraham Hicks quote:

"Because others cannot vibrate in your experience, they cannot affect the outcome of your experience. They can hold their opinions, but unless their opinion affects your opinion, their opinion matters not at all. A million people could be pushing against you, and it would not negatively affect you unless you push back. They are affecting what happens in their experience. They are affecting their point of attraction -- but it does not affect you unless you push against them. All Is Well"

For today.. For this moment, when I feel the urge to accept responsibility for others failure to deliver, I will instead return to a point of honesty, and speak from the heart. I will also return to a point of gratitude, for the many people in my life that I recognize do create a quality outcome, care about one another and deliver. The problem is not everyone, or even out there, the problem is my attachment to the problem for all it's familiarity.. I am willing for this to no longer be a part of my story. :D

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Remembering and Love on September 11, 2001

2007-09-11T08:41:00.000-07:00

People matter. They always matter, and always will matter. Sometimes the sensitivity leaves us so raw that we question our ability to recover and restore our connection to a more peaceful, useful source. And yet we can recover, we can restore, we can rebuild, and we can remember.

"We are at war and this will cost us a great deal. Who is responsible and what do we do?" I have seen today the reruns of news, the confusion and chaos of 091101. It rained today in New York. Six years ago 'tore across our history", remarked Mayor Bloomberg, the men and women in official uniforms, and those volunteers that said those are my neighbors, let me help".

Our sense of connection to our humanity, the fragile conditions of fear.. the shortness of life..the compassion.... all was heightened on that day. At 11:45 September 11, 2001, the city, shrouded in a thick debris as the towers, the lives, the business paper work, had fallen and the chaos had it's rise in the form of an overpowering layer of sorrow. We honor 3,000 people lost in this solemn moment- 2,750 in the World Trade Center alone. We can not underestimate that pain, nor can we soothe the feeling of loss and terrific trauma. Emotional trauma was high.. Painful life experience as we came to terms with the volume of disaster that had fallen on our world.

For several years, I have appreciated the gravity of loss, offered solemly on the CNN Memorial. This depth of corporate and personal loss runs deep and lingers long. My neighbors are related to Todd Beamer who perished in Flight 93. To allow another's strength and boldness to affect you in a positive way, is essential and refreshing. My friends and neighbors shared a lovely memorial article written by Todd's former university alma matter. They talk about taking things lightly and not allowing anger to overwhelm our better selves. I love living in proximity to that level of humanitarian maturity.

How do we, as world citizens, bring recovery and appropriate memorial to the lives lost on September 11, 2001, and the lives lost that followed in the name of a "war on terror"?

I know and knew the World Trade Center's long before the attacks that morning. Sun Microsystems had offices, and systems in the World Trade Center, that our Help Desk served, and a few of us had worked a good many weekends responding to help desk issues arising from that area. One of our peers had moved to New York to be a System Administrator in WTC02, just several short months prior.

The pain and sorrow we felt by wanting to stop the pain, stop the bleeding, stop the torture-- was clouded by our duty to do what must be done. Like so many, I felt a responsibility to speak for kindness in response to 091101. Using the talents we possessed to help restore balance, love, and compassion in times of terror was most important for many of us.. in times of devastating loss.

We remember that life is precious as we observe the past, not wishing to shut the door on it, but wishing to give it proper memorial, and learning a new sense of freedom from tyranny, a sense of gravity from the incident, and a renewed sense of purpose towards healing and helping one another.

We can offer more than empty loss. In the day of it's happening and the years that followed the violence becomes difficult to rationalize, to justify, or manage.

How will we need to be of service as a result of this tragedy?
How do we allow healing to replace heartache?
How do we care in a way that people are really transformed with a loving resilience to face whatever life hands us with a relative grace?

Healing and the Empathic Healer

2007-09-08T05:42:00.000-07:00

Defining and managing involves both accepting and managing, or denying and ignoring, the gifts and challenges of empathy. As an empath, it is very clear of being able to receive information that others might need help expressing. The roles and responsibilities of an empath are tricky as we learn to navigate this 'gift', I found this article about male shamanism, gender neutral enough to be useful.

There was never a doubt that I had a gift of empathic proportion, the doubt for me was whether I can use it productively, without taking on the immense sorrows of others, and experiencing their horrors as my own, feeling obligated to listen to every detail until I was clear on what my role would be.

Accepting an empathic existence allows the benefits of an applied framework for addressing human issues of epic proportion. My first experiences with my empathic skills were uncomfortable and personally very painful.. I did not understand my role, or why I was receiving this information. I also did not understand why I had this ability and for that reception, what I was to do with it, other than received advance warnign that unpleasantry was getting ready to happen.

Infancy Stages for me started when I was 6 years old. I was born with 10 living grandparents, which also met a good many of my grandparents died from when I was 6 to around 12. On the moment of their death in the middle of the night I would waken with a sickening feeling of responsibility to "pay attention" because there is "something" that must be done. By the morning when the phone rang to report of a relatives departure I was crying before confirmed knowledge because I knew... and at 6, at some level, I felt responsible for the discomfort.

Teen Stages in my experience occured when I was able to converse with someone I knew who had passed. That it was always about death and loss, was painful to me still. In fact it would feel as if the pain attached with the loss and the sorrow I felt with being able to received the calls from others, but not being able to 'call' those I loved. It felt as if it were all one way communications.

Midlife Crisis Stages were represented by a longer and extended period of "reruns", experiencing others critical moments in greater detail until it was clear what I was to do with the message. Imagine if you can, having a repetitive sort of death in a hospital dream, with all the accompanying feelings of panic, mingled with bright lights and fast moving professionals around you, that feeling of not being done, and knowing you were... So many things left unsaid. This rerun would occur for 7 months until I was clear who it was attributed to, and what I was to help with.

Lessons will repeat until their purpose is clear, or our own "human" condition overshadows it.

So much to be learned about being a better listener so I can more efficiently know what is needed to come to a more peaceful place So reading with interest how others manage to be grounded, and yet useful/practical.

I had a dream about a spiritual healer coming through our neighborhood. In a crimson robe, but barefoot by choice. Why? He explained that this allowed him to sense and heal, as he walks through a path. The exercise of practice involved receiving and allowing a peaceful transformation to be sparked.

I think it is possible to provide relief more efficiently. I know I hear profound spiritual guidance, I wander how much clearer I could be.. How much more useful, if it did not take so long for me toget the message?

Is it possible to sense and heal without knowinug the person who is hurting?
How is it possible to be sensitive enough to respond and heal, but grounded enough to stay healthy?

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2007-09-06T20:19:00.001-07:00

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Life, Kids, and Business Travel

2007-09-05T05:20:00.000-07:00

I am in Colorado on business travel this week, and getting ALOT done. From my 8th floor window, I have a lovely view of the city lights. Last night I enjoyed the fitness center and a most excellent workout, after a lovely dinner with friends. But one constant is missing-- my kids!

I want to be kind of like Dawn Mular, business person, who has the life style of Angelina Jolie--- who lives and works her passions, and her kids are with her on the trip. I don't want Angelina's filming hours, so I have created a more appealing picture of my dream: Last night I talked to my 3 year old before her bedtime:

“Mommy, when are you coming home on the arrplane to tucka me in?”

Melted my heart, and made me remember why we all work so hard.. Also made me remember that I really like the choices I made to work PRIMARILY from home. Rock on Telecommuters, Rock on!

The Dalai Lama-- Wisdom of the Heart

2007-08-23T17:48:00.000-07:00

This is beautiful and practical wisdom...

		"The Wisdom of the Heart" Dalai Lama
	1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.	Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values. Sleep is the best meditation. Spend some time alone every day. We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection. Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them. The ultimate authority must always rest with the individual's own reason and critical analysis.

Interview Success Resources

2007-08-23T17:40:00.001-07:00

Watching the trends... One of my friends negotiated a great salary for herself this week. The key to her success was knowing her skills, and having rehearsed in advance how to manage expectations.

Here are some recent clips of interviewing and job salary news.. What else have you read lately that you found inspirational?

Wishing you career excellence!

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Forward Foregiveness

2007-08-20T04:37:00.000-07:00

Forward foregiveness has become an exercise in seeing and releasing the past in proper perspective. Part of letting go, (guilt, shame, sorrow, intense fear, post traumatic stress disorder) involved knowing when to release an experience, and allow the event that once held you, to pass, becoming ever part of the fabric of who you are, but allowing some new and beautiful patterns to emerge. This is not an exercise in rational debate, so much as a practice of radical love.

It had been 20 years since I have experienced the events of that night, and yet like a old sports injury, I found myself reviewing frame for frame, the night I survived a criminal hostage situation-- replaying the events with a critical eye for what I could do if such a horror ever happened again.

Could I have jumped out of a moving van, recovered balance, and gotten away sooner?
Could I have reasoned with my attacker more rationally and avoided the more brutal parts of the assault?
Could I have used my fear more effectively to emit a different outcome?

The 'business sense' that follows surviving a violent crime is intense. Each image etched in my mind, reframed and presented in technical color for all it's graphic violence. Like a Sunday Football Player, I kept that footage locked away for when my game was strong enough to analyze my performance. In the "game" I had already forgiven my opponent-- he was stronger than I, faster than I, and much more unafraid of the consequence of his own actions.

I was attacked by an angry Vietnam Veteran, straight out of jail for attempted murder, in a crystal meth induced flashback. His training, his lifestyle, his very life experience was a study in repetitive fear-- in survival of the fittest- and in kill or be killed because it is all that threatening.

There is nothing 'logical' about the randomness of this event. It happened 20 years ago, and curious that over time, I feel obligated to examine to bring out the performance footage from the far far past to re-assess my 'disaster recovery performance'?

I had forgiven him. Being angry with someone with a propensity for violence in unresolved issues is a sure way to keep yourself stuck. Releasing it without examination is as well. How to acknowledge a horrific event head on and allow it to pass becomes the issue? How to forgive and release the event to the sands of time?

Observe, appreciate and move on. Radical and forward forgiveness is about being painstakingly bold in our analysis and observation. Not regretting the past, nor wishing to shut the door on it, appears to require radical forward forgiveness. It has been 20 years, and I have begun to know a new freedom in the spirit of forgiveness, a new peace from putting aside the remnants of a past trauma--- really putting it away with archival care means really acknowledging it's existence, appreciating it's lessons, but most importantly, allowing it to be part of the fabric of my being.

From this event, I have learned and grown. I have indeed moved on from the trauma that overcame me. At the time, it seemed that living through this event was the worst thing that could have happened. Having done that I have found a new freedom and strength of being making me less susceptible to self criticism. Forgiveness means knowing and seeing the truth for what it is, and allowing it to be part of you-- for good, bad, or ugly-- the best and worst, the darkest and light-- at your essence is still creative you. So what, if the universe has more confidence in you, than you have in yourself, you will find the capacity overtime to mirror that strength and beauty.

My manifest:

I trust that all is happening for a reason, and in the ugliest of life experiences, can live beauty.
I trust that we have a purpose, and all is well because it is happening on purpose.
I realize that we have more control than we give ourselves credit for, and sometimes we try to overexert ourseles in a vain attempt to demonstrate false control.

Dreaming about being the love you want to see in the world.

2007-08-18T05:07:00.000-07:00

What a delicious and lovely dream I had last night. In the neighborhood where I now live, present time, I dreamt that we were all looking for something. I dreamt of Amy and Cara, Eric, and Addy, of our neighbors trying to find the art work that was intended to be a young boy's view of the spiritual significance of a 'coronation chalice'-- some sort of elegant cup that seemed to hold him when he was younger, and he spent a life time trying to rediscover that.

Peace and sheer serenity came through when a man, of small stature and simple needs walked through the neighborhood, emanating love and joy to such a level that the dogs and cats, the young children stopped doing everything to observe his techniques and gentle way of being a channel for love. He was dressed in a sort of comfortable brushed cotton monk outfit in red, and walked without shoes, to maintain contact with the earth, and sense where more attention is needed. You must be the change you want to see in the world-- he suggested this with actions so clear that words were unnecessary.

Living by best example, becoming more aware of what is going on, we become more open channels of love, for we are on this earth, a very short time, and perhaps we are looking for the wrong things?

My observations:

Love is all that really matters, and we need to sense and respond in loving kindness, anything else is unpleasant distraction.
We have become so protective of our children, that we protect them from the greater joy that they know even better than we how to be in touch.
Fear is a mighty discomfort, that separates us from the real person we want to be more of the time. Kindness is simple and based upon the regular decision to stay grounded, stay feeeling and love one another.

My questions:

What is the symbolic or cultural significance of a coronation chalice/cup?
What type of holy person was it walking through my neigborhood with bare feet, and red robes? How does everyone just know he is love, and nothing more?
How do we become more rooted in possibilities of emanating love to heal the hurts of our world?
Could it be that inflammation and environmental allergies of sorts keep us stuck in a feeling of blocked-ness? Could we flow love better when we are less attached to the grown up outcome?

Curiosity Enlightened this Cat. on Healthier Eating

2007-08-15T20:08:00.000-07:00

After a month on the detox diet eliminating all potential allergens, we have found ourselves feeling much better. So how do people who choose to live this way all the time do it? I decided it was time to find out.. And here are some resources I found on the path. My husband and I are partners in this activity to learn and discover more about processed sugar and gluten free living.

First on Ning, I was pleased to find some great resources:
View my profile on Gluten Intolerance or Celiac Disease

Reading More About it:

Some Health Benefits to learning of Celiac Disease:

Day 22 of Whole Foods Invigoration

2007-08-01T04:58:00.000-07:00

I heard this yesterday, and decided to stop holding my breath. "Breathe in- optimism, Breathe out- fear."

Day 22 of our whole foods invigoration. This is the first time my husband and I have gone for 3 weeks without refined food, sugar, artificial sweeteners, soda, milk, cheese, margarine, bread, gluten, malt, honey, and caffeine. This week we reintroduced poultry and seafood into our diet- so far so good, in fact, that little bit of protein seems to make my workouts more efficient.

I am cooling down from a magnificent work out with my trainer at Lifestyles. Jason is great, because he pushes me, just a little more than I really think I can do, and at the end of the workout, I feel like superwoman. Amazing on the lack of sleep I have had this past 3 days, that I have such a delicious sense of well being!

So far Kevin has lost almost 10 pounds and several inches.
I have lost 19 pounds and almost a foot-- no not one of those 2 I walk on, but significant inches!

Yesterday was a challenging day at work, and I never realized how I have trained my body to just do whatever it takes to get me through the moment. I had a network problem that was completely out of my control, and I had 3 meetings today to get ready for. Don't 'they' understand I am busy, I want a sandwich, darn it -- and dessert--- you know, the kind with real bread, creamy horseradish, beef, and cheddar cheese crumbles melted with a sided of aus jus. For dessert, something with dark chocolate and carmel sauce, and a cup of coffee-- that way I can get everything done in my plan, even if the outage got in the way.

Breathe out fear.. I let me friends in on the deep inside joke that is my psyche. I don't like that feeling of being out of control. From a place of sheer fear, I start to make myself and my dreams more verbal-- my health goals, my career goals, my professional productivity... Fear is a bad and wicked spiral staircase to a place that gets hotter, and more rapid, to a vertigo like place.

For me, fear is this deep seeded belief that I will make a mistake in life, so big that I will be left alone, penniless, failing, not a friend in the world.

Breathe in optimism.... Okay so what happens if everything is NOT done on time? What breaks if I need to reset expectation? Only my disappointment in myself for not being and doing all I can to get things done. I am responsible. I am responsible for my best productivity, and most of the time I get alot of things done, within my control, but clearly the issue is my belief that I can control all elements of the business nature, and that is expecting the impossible. I can do many things. I can do more things, by being a little less unreasonable on myself. I am training new muscles now, new disciplines. Inconvenience is part of that training, flexibility is another part, and a muscle well worked, never atrophies.

Breathe in faithful optimism: Miracles DO happen. Dreams DO come true. I have DONE way more than I have failed at in life. I am not unique in my feelings of fear and pain avoidance, I am simply choosing a unique approach that is different for me in that I will laugh at it lightly, to observe it and let it pass.

Laughing at my own neurosis? You bet!

It can not be any more insane than believing comfort food can ease discomfort of a challenging work environment. Part of the faithful optimism view that I have taken however, is that we have immense power and choice-- to retain or release a belief system that serves, or fails to serve us.

What's my next goal? 15 more pounds to go, and then the focus turns to endurance training, and seeing if it's time to get off some of this medication, and find something new to enjoy in place of the trips to the doctors office, emergency rooms, or time spent hiding from the world because I am too hideous, too whatever to be seen. There is a new me emerging, and I choose to get to know that side, even better than my well established neurosis routine. :D

Day 18 of Detox Diet..

2007-07-28T09:56:00.000-07:00

Detox Diet, Day 14 What I learned on the path so far

2007-07-24T16:23:00.000-07:00

Day 14 of the Detox Diet.. Not so bad, in fact the results have been remarkable. I am feeling 14 pounds lighter, and have lost over 10 inches!! YEEEEE HAW. This is what a half month of healthy and deliberate eating and working out has offered me.

New healthy eating habits I have learned on the path..

Steamed vegetables do not have to be boring! Add imaginative tea and spices to the water bath you steam in, and watch your vegetables transform! For example: Steamed Cauliflower, Broccoli, and Chinese Peas in the steamer-- add Lavender Tea and Chinese 5 Spice to the water bath (also good for asparagus).
For a deliciously elegant potato dish, put roasted red potatoes and green beans in the steamer with 2 cloves of garlic and basil-- add rosemary, chili pepper and green tea to the water bath.
Boil a cinnamon stick in pure unsweetened applejuice, and add that as a base to oatmeal for a deliciously satisfying treat.
Mix 1/2 bag frozen organic black cherries with almond milk and carob for a deliciously satisfying ice cream like- treat.
You don't miss the sugars from great salad dressing with great ingredients. Mix some flaxseed and garlic infused olive oil with a bit of mustard and raw apple cider vinegar for a delicious dressing. Add this to an herb salad with raisins and cashews, and you are not missing a thing!
There is nothing quite so elegant as an heirloom tomato and herb salad... no dressing needed, just a bit of sea salt and alot of beautiful gold and red tomato!
White peaches and raspberries or blueberries makes a delicious pick me up any time!!

Aligned in Right Livelihood..

2007-07-23T08:31:00.000-07:00

This week for me I am focusing on drinking in gratitude. Often in life I use a negatively motivated choice to try to create a positive outcome. I love my work, love my job, but am working incessantly too hard at everything I do. Why? Well I don't look at this often enough, I just work. Why? Because it feels better to do something than do nothing but 'feel'. Why? Because I am getting a feeling of accomplishment from the something. I am not sure I get anything from just 'feeling' when my thoughts and dreams are so vivid and dramatically insistent that I must change now, or lose everything.

I can almost hear my dear friend Carol's words now, "Dawn, who's limitations are you carrying?"

The notion of aligning to right livelihood creates an awakening to what you do and the values of working hard to help others on their path to enlightened living.

With distractions and deadlines, interrupts, and reprioritizations, it is easy to fall off course, while we are enjoying a generous security, or income, and thus lose our higher purpose. With a world of abundant opportunity, why do we suffer? It feels remarkable to be feeling connected, appreciated, and using our talents to ease suffering and produce resolve, that we are able to sense from our work environment how we can add value, and find the passion and commitment to do so.

The difference between watching life in a semi-engaged, semi-ready stance, and being fully engaged is one of passion, decision, and vision. Negative emotions like boredom, fear, even insecurity is a choice we make, but it is not the only choice.

What can you do differently today to experience a full connection to your source energy?

Are there areas of your work where you find yourself passively checking out and marking time?
What can you do to create meaning and momentum?
If feeling connective and productive is valued, what actions are you willing to trade to move out of feeling stuck?

Verti-ah go go..

2007-06-23T16:55:00.000-07:00

I have wondered recently on my journey which strategy is best to break through the health issues-- it would seem to focus attention on them, is to magnify them, but to be aware of them, is to move through them, to ignore them it seems is to be largely impractical... How then does one manifest health without obsessing over the agitating symptoms that get in the way?

Vertigo was my journey this week.. It came suddenly unexpectedly in the middle of the night, the room was spinning and I could barely make it down the stairs. By the next morning I was experiencing little blackout spots from the outside of my eyes in, so I went to the Emergency Room, sensing that if the spots got much bigger, I could faint, and I really wanted to return to 'normal' equilibrium.

I have found some fascinating work out of Australia's Addison's Disease Association on the linkage between Vertigo and Cushings Syndrome. It seems very difficult to either diagnose, treat, or manage this disorder... And it seems the more I read, the more I think I really need a fresh medical approach to resolve this... I sense that the solution that will work for me is right around the corner, if I could only find that corner.

And then I read Erica's Story, and oh my goodness did I relate! Her talk of migraines, vertigo, PCOS, and of course coming up with perfectly logical reasons why the symptoms were plaguing her. Like Erica, I attributed it to 'not finding the right hormonal balance', stress, overwork, over tired, under rested. Working out 3 times a week and eating lots or a little seemed to have no progressive affect..

So I began to think of the natural balance point for this disorder. It is clear there seems to be a direct relationship between sinus problems, vertigo, and glucose intolerance.. Not sure how, but I am sure that they live in a similar block, if not the same house. Summing up another statement on Cushings,

"If the Cushing's Syndrome is curable, or if iatrogenic Cushing's Syndrome must remain, these individuals will have to cope with persistent fatigue, muscle weakness, abdominal and facial weight gain, depression, mood swings, and all the other signs and symptoms mentioned earlier. Regular visits to a physician for examinations, blood tests, and treatments of infections and complications will be necessary and are often viewed as a sever burden."

Can Natural Homeopathic Solutions be applied?

Allopaths seem aware of the cause, what of the natural fix?

Lets Cultivate Optimism and Possibility..

2007-06-09T04:46:00.000-07:00

At it's simplest form, the paired adding of 2 negative values will never equal a positive outcome. In mathematics as in life, 'nothing from nothing' means nothing, (or less than that even).

As adults somewhere between the ages of 35 and 45, many of us have adopted a peculiar reverse logic that, if not addressed, can cause an atrophy of our dream muscles. If this reversal of values that happens in us goes long enough unaddressed, it seems like the universal law that 'anything that can go wrong, will', proves itself out more times than we might like.

Operative notion 'than we might like':

If we like the ideas of stability, big dreams, appreciation for our work, connectedness to one another, and healthy living, why is it we feel obligated to change our understanding of basic math as middle aged adults to cope?

It could be the task of "being grown up" mandates we be practical about preparing for the worse. Now I am not suggesting blind optimism, but I am suggesting a shift in the headlines that attracts our attention, and the self talk that supports our experience. Truly expectations have much to do with the outcome of our life experience.

As I look through my mail, news, and inbox I see how common the occurence is that we try to rail against a negative value to make a positive impact:

"Let's stop bully and tragedy."
"Actor reflects on last days as Tony Soprano "
"Drunk driving not just Paris "
"Chained to your desk"
"Iraq surges towards more violence"

What have we given importance and attention to, when a public figures failur becomes a consolation prize? What ongoing experience is that creating for us mentally? If we act on our values, then surely the headlines would suggest:

Pain hurts, lets kill it, medicate it, sue it, fight against it.
A really popular TV Show is proof as well that nothing good lasts forever and this might be your last break.
See success is just about waiting to get busted for being your natural self-- everybody does it, and if you have money, you might get treated unfairly too.
Working hard to earn the right to be caught drunk driving or worse, never getting a chance to get caught as better than insurgent violence in it's extreme danger.

And so my friends, I suggest an opposite approach to flexing our dream muscle. The newspapers have some 100 or so pages every day to give you the highlightw- the good, the bad, and the ugly.. The news has an hour or so, unless it is one of those news show looping the world news every 2 -3 hours until something more urgent happens.

The problem is not the news-- the media is reacting plain and simple to demand. If demand is for failure, pain, heartache, and reasons for societal demise, their first obligation is to profit. What sells? Hard fought success or disgracefully bad behavior?

Here are some alternative thoughts and headlines spoken throughoiut the years:

"I was once asked why I don't participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I'll be there."
~Mother Teresa
"Art, like a garden, must be nurtured and sustained"
“To put the world in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must cultivate our personal life; and to cultivate our personal life, we must first set our hearts right.”" Confucius
They WON friends and Influenced Advancement.
“An education which does not cultivate the will is an education that depraves the mind.” ~ Anatole France
Because as with biodiesel, doing good has to be good for business
As soon as you concern yourself with the 'good' and 'bad' of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weaken and defeat you.
~Morihei Ueshiba

Kindness: Doing way more than 1 nice thing!

2007-05-27T06:27:00.000-07:00

I posted a job this week to a lovely good will, website. I love to post job opportunities and work with people that share my passion for bringing good to others. That is how the Helping Friends Career Network found it's start.. Stepped in a desire to make a difference by showing uncommon caring in a time of frightening change. "We can do it" we CAN make a difference by exercising uncommon kindness, very different from the norm that makes headlines, but creates heartache.

What a delight when fortune graces you with an uncommon spirit that encourages you to be a better person, through their own experience, strength, and hope. Certainly that spirit was present in my interaction with Shmuel Greenbaum.

Dawn

____________________________________________________________________

Shmuel Greenbaum
Coping With Tragedy
Fighting Terror With Kindness

By Shmuel Greenbaum
info@TraditionOfKindness.org

Kindness has been my personal response to terror. My wife, Shoshana, was murdered by a suicide bomber. She was one of over 100 victims that were killed or injured on August 9, 2001 at the Sbarro restaurant in Jerusalem.

Sometimes I wonder whether telling my story can really help others. Since, the way I am coping with tragedy is so different than the norm, would anyone else understand it?

Many of the rabbis that came to visit me told me a story about a carpet. "Sometimes you only see the knots on the back," they said; "Only later do you see the beautiful design on the front." I thanked them for coming and explained that I see the beautiful design now. I see the "big picture."

I have always been interested in the "big picture" – in how to make the world better. Since I was a kid, I always liked to tackle these big problems by assembling a group of experts to solve them. As a teenager I designed a system to tap hydroelectric power from the wastewater of apartment buildings. I contacted a local engineering school and assembled a team of academicians to prepare the plan for the US Department of Energy.

After my wife’s violent murder, I began a project to teach people how to be kinder. The project has just started to take off. At the moment, we have more than 30,000 subscribers on six continents to our "Daily Dose of Kindness" e-mail. Everyone who signs up for this e-mail list is also automatically signed up as an advisor. As I said before, I like having many advisors. Right now, I have over 30,000 "Kindness advisors".

Last week, one of my Kindness advisors sent me an e-mail link to an article in the New York Times about how medical researches have found that acts of kindness stimulate the brain in the same place that physical pleasures do. So now medical researchers have shown that doing kindness causes enjoyment. From this you can see one way that I cope with tragedy – I receive tremendous pleasure by promoting kindness.

My favorite author on kindness is Zelig Pliskin. In his book Kindness, he presents eighty-five techniques to find new opportunities to do kindness by improving yourself and improving the world around you. In one chapter he explains how you can feel the thrill of an international sports victory every day if you visualize 100,000 people applauding for you and cheering you on when you do an act of kindness. Studies have shown that our hormonal system has actual biochemical responses even though the victory is totally a figment of our imagination.

Shortly after my wife’s death, I prayed with great intensity to G-d to help me to make the world better. From the feedback I am getting from my kindness projects, it is clear that my prayers are being answered and that I am helping to make the world a little kinder – one person at a time. This feeling of Divine assistance combined with the biochemical responses to my imagined victory has given me tremendous emotional strength.

Join Us!
Be a "Partner In Kindness."
Visit our websites:

English:
http://www.TraditionOfKindness.org (Daily Jewish e-mail)
http://www.PartnersInKindness.org (Weekly Non-Sectarian e-mail)

French:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Potentiel_de_Bonte (Weekly e-mail)

Spanish:
http://espanol.groups.yahoo.com/group/LapracticadelaBondad/ (Weekly e-mail)

Hebrew:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/KindWordsInHebrew/ (Weekly e-mail)

German:
http://de.groups.yahoo.com/group/FreundlicheWorte (Weekly e-mail)

Russian:
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/KindWordsInRussian/ (Weekly e-mail)

Indonesian:
http://asia.groups.yahoo.com/group/KataKataBaik/ (Weekly e-mail)

Portuguese:
http://br.groups.yahoo.com/group/ParceirosNaBondade/ (Weekly e-mail)

If you would like to do a very easy, but powerful act of kindness, forward this e-mail to friends and relatives. If you know of any groups that are interested in having me speak, I don't charge a fee, other than travel from New York (if I am not already in the area).

MetroMint.. Turn on a great health habit!!

2007-05-19T22:38:00.001-07:00

I grew up in Illinois putting crushed mint leaves over ice in the summer time for a refresher.. so is it any surprise that MetroMint is now my favorite drink.. unmessed with water with a crisp flavor and a bold splash of mint. And caselots is how I would like to receive this from now on.. I love this..

So when I was telling my health transformation teammates about MetroMint, I sent them the URL rather than just sending them to the grocers or health stores that stock this treat. Alot has changed since I went to the website.. I knew about the 3 other flavors, but what I did not know is that they were shipping and directly... AND having free stuff with a fan club.. now that is some product placement I can get behind.

Other flavors I would like to see--- grapefruit mint, ginger mint, and maybe rosemary mint.. This is something the elegant spas should pick up on too!

Abundant thought and creativity.

2007-05-11T19:44:00.000-07:00

The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent
I just finished reading Esther and Jerry Hicks 'The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent". Paraphrasing the most profound statement in the book:

"you begin to see immediate results when you improve the relationship between your 'wants' and 'beliefs'. Disharmony comes from sensing, acting, and lingering to long in the poverty or the 'lack of want' or the 'belief that explains why it won't ever really happen.

Appreciation for a really lovely week.

After a month of blissful sleep I have made peace with my body and my mind can visualize happy thoughts more easily.

The weather has been beautiful and the sunshine on my face as I am cutting the grass, in the summery heat, makes me really enjoy and appreciate my connectedness to this earth, with everything in colorful bloom-- this year splashes of purple, red, and yellow seem to grace the sunny areas, and in the shade there are light airy wildflowers of a pale blue, yellow, and white.

I am so grateful to be able to work from home and appreciate this weather.
My connection to resources this week has been remarkable for health, friendship, and business richness.
I am finding the sleep and health improvements sufficient to find a boost of energy to do more.
I am able to really relax and delight in both the quiet time and the busy times..
Job leads and opportunities, resumes, and talents are being recognized through our network. The successes seem to be multiplying.
I am learning through contrast and transparency... to tell my story as it is, to see myself more realistically, and to make decisions that support my dreams more deliberately.
I have also taken the courage to keep quiet until asked, but then when asked, being very frank and purposeful in my desires seems to get me better results faster than the belief system that we are running low on resources.

Happy Earth Day!!

2007-04-22T05:17:00.000-07:00

The most beautiful spring weather has graced Ohio. The grass is lush, the flowers and trees in bloom.. Kevin and I were negotiating for WHO would get to mow the grass-- now THAT is a negotiation that will not be necessary a few more weeks in to spring.

Every day in an appropriate day to honor the Earth and care to take meaningful actions to preserve it for the future.

Today is a perfect Earth Day! The first celebration of Earth Day was April 22, 1970 when over 20 million people celebrated and honored the earth that we enjoy. Earth Day is celebrated by nations in over 175 countries. The first event featured keynote speaker and folk singer Pete Seeger performed in Washington DC. Paul Newman and Ali McGraw supported a New York City Event.

It is not just celebrities making a difference. Imagine what happens if one person in one home on every block in your city were to take a few positive actions like that of 6 year old Ryan Hrejlac of Ontario. Those who say environmental issues are out of reach have never considered the possibilities of a child armed with knowledge and optimism that they CAN make a difference! Since he learned at a young age that unclean water was causing a number of citizens of our earth to die, Ryan sprung into action, creating a wellspring of goodness! Today Ryan's Well Foundation has delivered clean water in the form of 266 wells in 12 countries serving
435,343 people!

Why Raise Awareness now?

All About the Environment

Climate Change Solutions: What you can do right now!
Earth Day Energy Fast
Ecological Footprint Quiz
Embrace and employ Green Career Options savings estimated at a 25-ton per year reduction of volatile compounds could be reduced in metropolitan areas that allowed 4,500 telecommuters to work from home 1-2 days per week! InnoVisions Canada reports that 1.5 million Canadians are working from home more than one day per week.

Think large corporations are not considering this option? Think again!

It saves the environment, and real estate costs! AT&T saved about $550M by reducing office space and allowing telecommuting. About 1/4 of IBM's workers telecommute saving IBM $700M in Real Estate.
It expands the pool of available resources to hire, while reducing relocation costs, and studies have suggested that teleworking 1-3 days/week increases employee productivity by 10-20%, translating into 5-10 telecommuters giving the equivalent of one free extra worker.

Green Shopping Tips
Planet Green Game
Educational Resources- wow an average tv consumes 200-300 kilowatt-hours/year. TV use alone constitutes an estimated 3-4% of the annual electronic usage in the USA tipping the scale at 46.9 billion kilowatt-hours/ year! Or, in a more earthly view, creating approximately 36 million tons of carbon dioxide, a global-warming causing pollutant. Turn off the TV a week a month and rediscover your family! Its good for you AND the earth.

Kids Activities:

I beg your pardon.. Here I promise you a Flower Garden!

2007-04-08T20:51:00.000-07:00

Stir Crazy from that feeling of wanting it to be spring, but knowing a walk in the out of doors to the shivering daffodils, demonstrates a more chilling reality.

Check out the flower garden.. Click on the URL and drag your mouse across the screen... http://www.procreo.jp/labo/flower_garden.swf

May you plant joy like these flowers, where ever you go!

Helping Friends Winning Business and Careers... on Ryze Network at:
http://linkedinhfcngroup.blogspot.com/2007/04/ryze-and-winning-business-careers.html

What Color Is Green? And finding beauty..

2007-04-03T08:38:00.000-07:00

My thanks to Chris Lekander for inspiring this blog!! What Color is Green is a story about finding beauty in being the change you want to see in the world. What color is green to someone who has never seen?

Whether you have the gift of sight or not, may you feel deeply the beauty an joy that exists in the contrasts of our life.

After a long winter, how can I explain the beauty and delight of the emerald green lawn that has suddenly awoke-- of the trees which have exploded in colorful bright pink flowers-- to someone who has never seen? Yes certainly, the gift of life, of sight to see, is a most precious gift.

That story unfolded into a beautiful message when a filmmaker witnessed children at the Kamla Mehta Dadar School for the Blind in Mumbai celebrating the Indian festival of colors -- Holi -- he decided to turn the experience into this poignant and playful public service announcement. Upon completion of filming, he and 67 others pledged to donate their eyes to those in need.

http://www.karmatube.org/videos.php?id=72

For More Information:
http://www.ebai.org/html/index.htm
http://www.tbionline.org/
http://www.restoresight.org/

Moving in the direction of "on"

2007-03-29T21:34:00.000-07:00

Sometimes we learn by contrast.. an experience that brings profound emotion, that helps you realize that your present experience is "off" kilter, to your well being. Tonight my dear friend jokingly referred to me not as a "Type A", but a "Type A+" Personality. I adore her, because her wisdom, her values, and oh what a delight to share time with people who know you, more than just for the "profession". I also appreciate that we discuss creating situations that produce a healthier approach to this dominant strength or weakness.

My personality is only part of the picture, I have learned from this week's business travel what "on" is in regard to what resonates for business satisfaction.

People are my inspiration and I delight in knowing them, their stories, their triumphs, their life. Positive choices: balanced life, time for spontaneous friending, and healthier balance.
Dreamers and visionaries are fun to work with, that and a great cause makes for some really neat synergies for business potential.
When lifes work is feeling "uninspired" it is time to make new decisions that bring your purpose, your good feeling of alignment and optimism into play. This can not be "faked" however, alignment happens by moving beyond the stuck feeling emotion, through to the possibility discovery.

You Have A Type A Personality

You are hyper, energetic, and always on the mood

You tend to succeed at everything you attempt

And if you don't succeed at first, you quickly climb your way to the top!

You could be called a workaholic, but you also make time for fun

As long as it's high energy and competitive, you're interested

You have the perfect personality for business and atheltic success

Do You Have a Type A Personality?

Exploring More:
Discovery Health Type A Personality Test
10 signs it is time to change a job

Cultivating Fields of Abundant Compassion..

2007-03-22T06:39:00.000-07:00

There is a cure for fear, lack, sorrow, and loneliness. It is human nature to develop a habit of routine as we move through our lives. When the day to day demands and obligations pile up, it is common to "autopilot" on life, and too much time spent in "autopilot" is really not good for our senses.. The solution is in finding a stillness to reset our vital connection and creativity. To reconnect to that essence of life that cultivates fields of abundant compassion.

While I aspire to living with character and inspiration, I fall short when leaning on my old familiar autopilot habits. Things go better when I am able to "roll with it" finding and appreciating the flow of life, choosing to accept life on life's terms, and appreciating the glorious moments on the path.

Okay, while indulgent to compare, and fun to amuse myself with how hard I have it, the real story is not in the difficulty of our travels, or even how far we have come, but how we have lived this moment. Now we look at Mother Teresa, the Pope, and the Dalai Lama as beings of high grace and compassion. I joke with myself that it would be easier for me to become a being of higher grace and compassion if I did not have the incredibly close family, friends, community, work and relationships that caused me to deviate from that path... Show me a Mother Teresa with 2 young kids a corporate job, and a list of obligations, and show me how they make those decisions WITH the obligations they have. Given there is an alternative, even a choice to living a life of service either way, but this is clearly the most colorful expression of my personality, to be a Type A personality, trying to become the best mom she can.

What of this Cultivating Fields of Abundant Compassion? I envision stumbling upon a field of lavendar-- an herb I adore, growing in the wild and I enjoy both appearance and in fragrance. What creates such an expanse of color-- the explosion of lavender and green, the sophisticated, and relaxed fragrance whispering on the air. We see the flower, sense the fragrance, and touch the fields border-- our senses satiated with the experience of connectedness to this expansive moment.

What makes this field is a seed, time, soil, organics, sun, rain, the elements all in favor of helping this field to grow, to multiply, and to offer itself to the universe. The field is not just the flowers, it is the flowers connectedness to the earth. It is the roots that reach through the earth and gain nutrients from the soil, and precipitation from the sky. It is the sun that heats the seed and the combination of nature and nuture causes growth!

How different are we really? Are we not all part of a common field, similar elements of nature, of earth, of weaknesses and capacity? What can we do then to cultivate fields of abundant compassion?

Be willing to stop being to busy to live in this moment!
Appreciate beauty and take time to wonder as you wander.
Cultivate growth-- spread love. Most things living, thrive on appreciation and love?
Rain happens, it is part of the cycle, as is Sun.. Balance takes care of itself, if we stay out of the way.

Optimism and the 6 Pillars of Human Character!

2007-03-16T17:24:00.000-07:00

I believe in justice and truth, without which there would be no basis for human hope. ~ His Holiness the Dalai Lama.

I saw a bumper sticker this week that pleased me on the pillars of character. A lovely reminder that we are all accountable for being our best, and helping those smaller than us to develop a sense of character, by the kindness we invest in the tending of their development.

In the school system, these values are taught as "TRRFCC".. My son Kyle was in Kindergarten he was introduced to the Six Pillars of Character-- a lovely notion that we grownups would do well to study and teach as well to be our best and develop character that counts! The picture above was taken when Kyle was in Kindergarten.

"True Blue" Trustworthiness

Be honest • Don’t deceive, cheat or steal • Be reliable — do what you say you’ll do • Have the courage to do the right thing • Build a good reputation • Be loyal — stand by your family, friends and country

Respect (The Golden Rule)

Treat others with respect; follow the Golden Rule • Be tolerant of differences • Use good manners, not bad language • Be considerate of the feelings of others • Don’t threaten, hit or hurt anyone • Deal peacefully with anger, insults and disagreements

Responsibility (Ever green and growing)

Do what you are supposed to do • Persevere: keep on trying! • Always do your best • Use self-control • Be self-disciplined • Think before you act — consider the consequences • Be accountable for your choices

Fairness (All with equal shares o'the orange)

Play by the rules • Take turns and share • Be open-minded; listen to others • Don’t take advantage of others • Don’t blame others carelessly

The "Heart" of Caring

Be kind • Be compassionate and show you care • Express gratitude • Forgive others • Help people in need

Citizenship (for a more Regal State of being)

Do your share to make your school and community better • Cooperate • Get involved in community affairs • Stay informed; vote • Be a good neighbor • Obey laws and rules • Respect authority • Protect the environment

Wisdom in stillness

2007-03-14T07:51:00.000-07:00

"Do not follow the ideas of others, but learn to listen to the voice within yourself. Your body and mind will become clear and you will realize the unity of all things.

The Buddha meditated for six years, Bodhidharma for nine. The practice of meditation is not a method for the attainment of realization—it is enlightenment itself."

-Zen Master Dogen, "The Practice of Meditation"

From "Teachings of the Buddha," edited by Jack Kornfield, 1993. Reprinted by arrangement with Shambhala Publications, Boston, www.shambhala.com.

To really appreciate this quotation, one needs to find a stillness in mind to be able to actually hear and become clear on the connectedness and unity to all things. It is well worth the effort of meditation however to find such a stillness, and in stillness from our lives that appear too busy, comes some sort of relief and vision for a better life.

YellowCreek Day Spa-- The Gift of Tranquil Luxury!

2007-03-08T16:24:00.000-08:00

March is our month of celebration. March 9 being my birthday, March 12 our anniversary and March 15 being my husband's birthday. This year Kevin found a real delightful gift of tranquil luxurious pampering at The Spa at Yellow Creek. Described as a haven of serenity and rejuvenation,seems like the perfect approach to my 40th birthday.

My day will be a sheer delight of Asian Treatment -- Asian Bodywork, Meditation, and Breathwork... Followed by a pedicure, facial and a fantastic spa lunch.

Sheer Delight..

My First Experience at Temple and the Medicine Buddha

2007-02-25T04:32:00.000-08:00

A friend invited me to share in her experience on a very timely and moving spiritual experience at the Palyul Temple. It was amazing to attend a service where although the primary language was Tibetan, not English, I found the content deeply profound and moving, as if language was no barrier to the simpler truths.

The 8th day of the lunar calendar; Medicine Buddha sadhana

It seemed to be a practice of allowing well being and care of others to flow through and around you. The temple experience was a way of turning off from the routine, to set your vibrational focus on things of greater value and benefit to the self, and the community.. that we all benefit from this ability to choose to apply joy and remove the trees of resistance from our path.

The Medicine Buddha was an experience for removing the resistance and allowing healing empowerment to take it's place.

Happy New Year!! 2007, Year of the Pig

2007-02-17T17:24:00.000-08:00

For the Year 2007, the Year of the Boar (Pig), February 18, is the auspicious Chinese New Year. Chinese New Year starts on the first day of the new year with a new moon, concluding on the Lantern Festival fourteen days later. The Chinese New Year is as important to the Chinese as Christmas is for many Americans.

Here are some fun tributes old and new to the Chinese New Year:

Chinese Cultural and Educational Products.
Traditions and Taboos on Bringing in the New...
New New Year Celebrations
Send a Feng Shui Greeting or Plaxo has a nice selection of Chinese New Years Cards.
Commemorative Gold Chinese New Year USB Memory cards are retailing for $510 each
It is a time for family feasts, start anew, buy new clothing, and exchange red envelopes stuffed with money.
Feng Shui Masters warn that the year of the pig is fraught with conflict, yet children born in the year of the pig are gifted with help from others

Arnold Schwarzenegger, Woody Allen, Elton John, and Ronald Reagan are a few.
That does not necessarily help Hillary Clinton, also born in the year of the pig, because the pig finished last in the race to establish the animal's zodiac order.
Do not despair however, there are still things you can do to live an auspicious 2007. Check out the tips from my favorite author, Lilian Too.

Dawn Mular
http://linkedin.com/in/dmular

In Memory.. Uncle Jim..

2007-01-26T19:23:00.000-08:00

James Q. Cook : Born December 4, 1919. Died January 25, 2007.

I never saw him during his long struggle with Alzheimer's.
I remember the man who's face lit up when talking about anything sports!

I remembered when I found with delight introducing my husband, Kevin to Uncle Jim, because the two of them had great fun being encyclopedias of their sports knowledge.

I remember about 15 Christmas Eves at Grandpa Lopeman's house, with the whole family-- Great Grandpa Lopeman, His children, their children and their children's children all hanging out in the basement, the place where all Grandpa's big parties were held.

I remember John Todd making us laugh so hard we would get in trouble for being too wound up. John, I know you are John, but I can't stop the "Todd" from tumbling out to this day.

I remember so many other things that made growing up knowing family and extended family well worth knowing.. I remember family and appreciate those memories greatly. At the moment it just seems like a party, in the years that follow, it becomes a golden memory treasured for the "simpler" times they represent.

We are all grown, with families all over the United States now, but I still remember the excitement and joy that represented Christmas with family and family and family. :D

Rest in peace, Uncle Jim.

I believe that love and art can change the world!

2007-01-19T21:24:00.000-08:00

You Are Surrealism

Dreamy and idealistic, you've created a world that is all your own.

It's very likely that you've either dabbled in drugs or are naturally trippy.

You are always trying to push beyond the boundaries of your culture and society.

You believe that art, love, and freedom can change the world.

What Art Movement Are You?

This is very true for me, and I am naturally free to be, "trippy". I feel this freedom from my firm belief in art, love, freedom to choose, dream and manifest richer world.. It's all good!

In fact at this time last week I was blogging on my thoughts of The Secret and the Laws of Attraction.. They support the art movement too. When I am free to feel the art, love, and possibilities, answers come faster, the sun shines brighter, and things just happen that way..Less to do with drugs and more to do with possibility and abundance.

Being the Change We want to See-- Who will go first?

2007-01-14T21:50:00.000-08:00

Arun Gandhi is born and cultivated a rich philosophy about the nature of peace and accountability to quieting active and passive violence. His assertion is that whether active or passive violence, participating in that environment is creating a residual outcome of violent action.

Behavior modification is the best way to start to shift energy and thinking on peaceful living, is to focus on pursuit of what is truth. It seems to require an ongoing practice to trade greed, selfishness, and possessiveness for love, compassion, understanding, and respect. To achieve this, requires a deep practice, more as a basis of our existence than something we say, but something powerful that we choose to do.

Arun Gandhi is a grandson of Mahatma Gandhi founded the M. K. Gandhi Institute for Nonviolence in Memphis, Tennessee. www.gandhiinstitute.org.

We have to be the change we wish to see. Unless we change individually, no one is going to change collectively. For generations we have been waiting for the other person to change first. A change of heart cannot be legislated; it must come out of conviction.

New Year, New You, Expansive Gratitude.

2006-12-31T22:22:00.000-08:00

Here are some of the things I am grateful for having learned and accomplished as I close the book of history on 2006 and embrace a new year with the coming of 2007.

Immensely grateful for the doctors and surgeons, for Children's Hospital and their progressive care of my daughter who is now fully recovered from her febrile seizure in January 2006, and has been completely healthy and is now in the 75% for her age/weight and height-- not just improving but thriving is awesome!
Learned from experience that direct requests and communications net better results than vague wishes and unexpressed desires. I learned to ask for what I needed, and becoming clear on when I had received it. THEN attracted a few excellent business women who helped me refine my approach. Learned much from Denise Michaels, and her Network Real Women, Real Business, Real Succcess.
Fear and Optimism seem to require equal practice to maintain, but Optimism has a much better ROI and Fear has a much greater cost on your productivity and a drain to your spirit.
I learned a bit more about Positive Framing for success and Prosperity Consciousness thanks to Ryze friends Rasheed Hooda and Ernie Martin working with me to consider my business model and Marilyn Jennet allowing me the means to offer her Feel Free To Prosper Program to my HFCN network.
Thanks to hiring a coach in the fall to help me design a better workout, I discovered a love of challenging and improving my health, and recognized about 2 sizes smaller in my wardrobe by Christmas.
We launched Helping Friends LLC, a for profit Business and Career Network venture of my dream purpose! Creative Carpe Diem at it's Best!
Launched the Linked In Helping Friends Group-- a LinkedIn Business Network, A Yahoo Companion Group & Networking Community to extend LinkedIn Capability, and a Social/Business Networking Blog to create a vehicle for using web 2.0 and social networking for business benefit.
Purchased, Trained and Deployed the HFCN Job Leads and Applicant Tracking System.
Researched, Published, and Collaborated to produce over 24 editions of the eNews Job Leads Newsletter to support the Job Seekers HFCN Yahoo Group!
Learned how to use my Gold Ryze Membership by creating and hosting a group called Winning Career and Business Networks.
Learned the art of day tight blogging, RSS, Feedburning, and Pinging.. Having created a multipurpose blog series for my Work in IT, Career Support for our Job Seekers Community, and a Business Network to support and help bring prosperity to our business partners.
Learned to take more risks and accept a more traditional and structured business model can still do good work, and in fact can serve more people to create a sound prosperity structure.
Met the exact life coaches and contacts I needed seemingly as if from the universe itself.. Signficant contacts for Business Development, Legal Services, Finacial Accounting, Recruiter Split relationships, Prosperity and Health Coaching.
Traded my fear and despair, survivors guilt and personal sorrow for practiced optimism, positive association, and daring to dream.
Finished "Windows" a tryptic painting about the beauty and nature on a golden afternoon.
Found my voice to lead others in business, and speak the truth, defining a path for discovering optimism and success out of tranforming the feeling of being stuck.
Created an awesome "Temporary Logo and brand" for the Helping Friends and got rave reviews for it being so bright, cheery and meaningful! Got Business Cards and Created a Cafepress HFCN Storefront with rotating graphics using the logo to reward referrals and contributions from the community that help others to get jobs.
Continued to memorialize important events such as 09/11, Corporate Layoffs and Human Matters.
Got back in touch with my high school best friend, Dora Mendoza-- a beautiful person who reminded me of the genuine kindness of others.
Created a channel for networking with other women, and in fact, got more involved with business professionals who are balancing success with life, work, and family successfully-- first steps to overcoming my type A personality.
Learned and Learned to Mentor the notion that Words Matter!
Learning a few ways to do calendars, and then learned that pretty is not nearly as useful as RSSCalendar.com's XML Portable RSS feed with a functional month view, portable Website view, subscription base and reuse capability!
Discovered the Browser Based Tool Bar of Conduit.com offers a great community oriented toolbar with a great RSS Change Management Vehicle.
Learned that my body metabolizes food better when I eat 4-5 smaller meals a day with good proteins. AND as I get more active, my threshold for blood sugar issues gets more sensitive if I don't manage this balance. Also that as I eat refined sugars or bulky meals I tend to feel very full, but crash from the sugar high pretty quickly.. Hmm more work needed here on balance, but good progress just the same.
Learned that I can manage bouts of insomnia better by not panicking or trying to force sleep. Sometimes breathing meditation can help, sometimes working out early in the morning really agressively can help. Always if I can not sleep at night, I can certainly refresh with cat naps during the day and stay productive and reasonably refreshed. Curious that insomnia seems to be best cured by more activity and less worry about how much sleep you are losing.
Discovered learning and possibility comes better from the universe than effort... however learning that the type A nature is one that can be channeled more appropriately thanks to reading the works of Pema Chodron, Thic Nhat Hahn, and of course the resonating historic life management message of Dr Jia Gottlieb and a host of priceless mentors that have presented themselves in my life over the past year.
Discovered and refined my talents for empathy through a stunning experience -- interesting story with a happy sort of ending. Wishing the family well, and learning not to ask why but instead what I am to do as a responsible empath to receive and act on the talent. Then had the pleasure of discovering the Abraham-Hicks learning and that perhaps therein is the solution to how to manage the "what" better.
Feeling a deep gratitude for the increasing prosperity that is happening in my life, both in monetary and meaningful experiences.
Appreciating the joy of reconnecting with family you have not seen for years, and some not seen for a decade-- it's almost like opening a unexpected Christmas gift.
Speaking of unexpected Christmas Gifts.. In the past year numerous teachers have appeared to show me some more of the eastern philosophical approaches to enlightenment, including my first Buddhist Speaker Event with a Tibetan Art Show in the High School that is only a few miles from here!
I could have the capacity, and great shoes now to run or walk in a competitive event, and am now creating the goal and training to complete such and event in 2007.
I learned way way way more about web maintenance than I had ever dreamed, and am proud to have learned how to produce my first Shockwave Media for the Helping Friends Jobs and Helping Friends Business Network.
My dear friend Renee Ponsonby moved from far far away in California to Wisconsin.. Great news! Part of her team is in Ohio, just about 40 minutes from my home.. BEST news!! Sharing dinner and laughs of old times with her is sheer joy -- always!
I live in as wonderful neighborhood with kind neighbors, and am starting to get to know more of them.
Got to see Dan Churney, talk about his book, our work, and get caught up on old times.. He looked great, seemed happy, and his work is interesting.. Hope he writes the next book. Capone's Cornfields was his last published work, and now it includes a tour for those who are interested. I would love to take that tour too!

Great Article: Soulful Living Manifesting Your Dreams

2006-12-07T21:01:00.000-08:00

Oh what a beautiful website Soulful Living is! A delightful "daily soul retreat".
I signed up for the newsletter and the first was an inspiring article by Suzanne Falter-Barns on Manifesting Your Dreams.

Ever have someone communicate so purely that they attract interest and inspiration? That is exactly my experience with this article. As a newer student of the laws of abundance and dream manifestation, I think the most common dance I encounter is one of allowing or creating the capacity to receive.

Suzanne Falter-Barn's story spoke of the drama of feeling trapped, a story of transcending the limitations of your dreams to really find the courage to be the empowered person you already are!

Her website "How Much Joy" was chock full of fantastic resources as well. This is way too good not to pass on.. and her blog "Blast O' Joy".

Create extraordinary dreams! They are already speaking to you, give them life, energy, and form... living your inspiration!

Gratitude for My Feng Shui life..

2006-11-19T20:54:00.000-08:00

It has been such a busy week-- work has been busy, business has been inspirational, and my health is sooo on the upward swing.

Yes, it is fair to say I am feeling very free to prosper, to stay productive at this pace, and experiencing some amazing health benefits too. My 7 year old son has started noticing this transformation and says "Mom, you are getting skinny."

I love working out in Yoga Attire.. and have a whole wardrobe of workout attire to handle my program which now includes some level of physical activity every day. Well after a month, and getting a few inches freer and healthier I have begun sleeping at night again-- something I have not done since January! That itself was wonderful, and then today, while I appreciate the compliments from my family, I have not felt different, and have deliberately not followed the scales around, instead working a program of rigor..

Today while running around getting ready for this busy week, I had to actually GO HOME and change pants because they were falling off of me! That is not at all a problem, but a delight, as the universe is telling me to stay the course, but for gosh sakes, change your workout attire, to something a little smaller!

On the Business Networking Front I am excited to share the Feel Free to Prosper seminar on prosperity with those who are registered to join us. The Blog'o the week is on Business Networking to create Prosperity/Results.

For Job Seekers, I am pleased to report over a dozen new jobs are in this weekend, and more are coming in this week. Those who think they are going to wait until after the holidays are missing out on some rigorous opportunity for sure!
* eNews Job Leads Newsletter.
* eCandidates LinkedIn HFCN Career Marketing Service.
* Attracting Readiness for Career Success.

Dawn
http://linkedin.com/in/dmular

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Affirmations and Gratitude

2006-11-12T22:31:00.000-08:00

Looking back on a busy week, I will prepare to welcome next week with a view of goals, manifesting results, appreciation for life.. I am using a http://hfcareernetwork.com/ProsperityBaguaManifest.html lifestyle "bagua" approach to my life.

GOALS FOR THE WEEK:
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- Managed Key Work Deliverables.
- Begin gratitude decluttering for Thanksgiving-- on whole house.
- Finish up on available jobs, candidates, splits.
o Extend eCandidates qualification program and process flow.

- Complete a Sales and Marketing Plan for the next quarters revenue attraction.
- Health Program bump up cardio, catch up on isometrics, 3 times weight training.
- Renew and Reconnect 3 Personal Relationships.

1. Attracting Abundant Wealth:
- Affirm Prosperity as my divine right.
- Refine message of intention towards abundance.
- Wealth/Success focus in moments of negative energy.

2. Evolving Self, Career, Work Direction:
- Deliver Performance Mapping.
- Close Calendar for October, Open November.
- Review updates on Criticality Communications Plan.
- Review updates on Helios FAQ and Comms Plan.

3. Foundations on Knowledge, Harmony, and Wisdom:
- Explore and visualize Successful Sales and Marketing Knowledge

4. Foundations on Health:
- Nights that I am busier I have more nights of restorative sleep.
- Log workouts and metabolic diet progress.
- Choice triggers for awareness during work related stressors.

Affirmations:
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* I delight in possibility and prosperity thinking and am experiencing the dramatic changes in all areas of life! Choose to find a positive in all things and it quickly becomes a habit that quickly transforms and enriches my life experience.

* I have unlimited choices, with opportunities abounding! Prosperity presents itself in abundant and unexpected ways-- a reminder that the universe, not type A hardwork, is the source.

* I drink in prosperity as a conscious choice. I am confident, optimistic and look forward to new challenges.

Dawn
http://linkedin.com/in/dmular

Spiritual Significance of Color and Political Intent

2006-11-08T04:55:00.000-08:00

Our nation is a system of checks and balances. Dominance of any primary for too long is unhealthy, centrally focused on the well being of the whole, we must be able to blend, to mix and produce our best authentic selves with consideration of the diversity that makes up our uniqueness and our differences.

Ultimate power + duration of time + human nature is a primary formula for corruption. This is not because people start out with an evil or malicious intent, but that they forget that there is much to be learned-- there is wisdom in balance, and that for something to truly be successful for the duration, it must be a mix of many different thoughts, cultures and virtues, and considerate of things such as honesty, integrity, moderation, with good heart and mind balance.

We can do many things, if we can stay reasonably rooted in a civility to speak and act our values, without damage or harm to others. To listen, process, and respond, without judgement of right or wrong until the facts are considered.

MEANING OF COLORS:
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PURPLE: Secondary Color comprised of 2 primaries. Purple represents Power, healing severe disease, spiritual ills, meditation, religion. Purple is known as the "cosmic" eraser of bad karma, that symbolizes the divine possibility to recover, restore, reform.

RED: Primary Color-- color and energy of the element of Fire. Invigorating fame, health, strength, energy, passion, courage, security, defense. Red is associated with blood (and thus, life and death), birth, volcanoes, and intense emotions.

BLUE: Primary Color--color and energy of the elements of water/oceanic. Healing, peace, psychism, patience, happiness. Symbolic of the ocean, sleep, twilight, and the sky.

POLITICAL SIGNIFICANCE:
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Change is good! Looking honestly at where we are, and deciding to represent that with activity to where we must go... Also good. May we find the strength, courage and conviction to restore civility and integrity, fairness, and opportunity to become Universal citizens, Americans, and then party primary. May we see the opportunity and consequence and make our best decision. May we see that Republican or Democrat, Independent, or Libertarian, our values are steeped in historic tradition, future dreams, and honoring our diversity.

Dawn
http://linkedin.com/in/dmular

Strong Women Vote, Lead, and CREATE herstory!

2006-11-06T01:58:00.000-08:00

Harriet Tubman once said, "I freed thousands of slaves, I could have freed thousands more if they had known they were slaves."

On this Election Day, we honor the women leaders who stand for their beliefs, who speak and insistent on being understood. Of Iron Jawed Angels, and Fearless Executive Women!

"Fearlessness is the most prominent characteristic of all bodhisattvas and all who tread the bodhisattva path. For them, life has lost its terrors and suffering its sting. Instead of scorning earthly existence, or condemning its 'imperfection', they fill it with a new meaning."

American Buddhist Pema Chodron said that "If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher".

Sisters In Resistance, tells the story of 4 women before and after war, and how the timeline of world events, and their courage and moral compass led them to stay connected rather than retreating in fear from genuinely fearful circumstance. These were the stories of four somen who found the courage to speak for their convictions. It was during their arrest and deportation as political prisoners, tthat they helped each other to cultivate a courage and will to survive.

What can we learn about uncommon love, possibility, and forgiveness? What will we speak, and stand, or model to be the peace we aspire?

Prosperity Gifts: Feel(ing) Free To Prosper

2006-11-03T12:31:00.000-08:00

Concerned introspection for how I was going to create a new market for the many deserving candidates that needed jobs when my "day job" was demanding the work of nearly 2 people? Now in my new program and life experience, I know to pay attention to words, to create more of what I want then what I don't want in life.

I value the integrity of my work product. The drive to deliver a good work product in my job and my business, was creating a challenge to manage, working several times the normal job of my day job, plus the business, plus my husband has been in Canada, Wisconsin, Colorado, California, and some place else I can't remember in the past month, so I am also single parenting. Somehow the energy has been there for all activities and they have all continued.

The First Prosperity Gift to my life was the Feel Free to Prosper Program. In addition to all other activities, I am working with a Prosperity Coach, Marilyn Jennet, who is teaching me how to overcome unconscious obstacles and create opportunities.

Applying her "Feel Free to Prosper" program, changes started working, curiously in every area of my life- home, work, and business. In fact, there is no other way I can explain the very curious nature of people asking me to do what I already have, almost as if the universe knows it is time to support my network, whether or not I have the time and energy, I will be provided the resources.

Now is one of the best times to refer or be looking for work! After years of trying to perfect our talent for attracting jobs that help our friends, we have discovered the source for making this stuff happen with less personal effort on our part, while still leveraging the power of community, and giving you more access to people who really have great competitive opportunities. Plus in the past weeks, many of HFCN job seekers have landed great opportunities.

This week Helping Friends initiated a serious major and synchronous partnership that will result in quality regular jobs being sent daily. Suddenly the issues of time and sourcing has been solved WHETHER I am available to create direct new opportunity or not!

Two activities underway now.
HFCN's new eNews is coming out in the next few days and we have started partnerships with several excellent recruiters who want to gain access to the resumes of job seekers for great opportunities now. We are just working out the details for how to 'exchange' the leads-- them providing job opportunities, 'HFCN' providing them resumes.. also have found interest in our eCandidates program so all this is very exciting, very win win.

My Prosperity Coach Marilyn Jenett has kindly agreed to bring a customized Feel Free To Prosper program to HFCN. Monday, November 20, 2006 6 pm Pacific/7 pm Mountain /8 pm Central/9 pm Eastern -- she usually sells the series of audio telecourses but the custom interaction is much more exciting-- and for a great price!

I am seeing STARS and I can't wait to see more. Please let others who were laid off know about the network and our resources. We have big plans for programs that give results to job seekers, or those looking to develop their skills where they are! Know of folks looking to hire, put them in touch too.. We are going to make this work! Fun stuff for sure.

Resources:
Seeing STARS

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Progress and Gratitude for the week...

2006-10-29T20:14:00.000-08:00

Looking back on a busy week, I will prepare to welcome next week with a view of goals, manifesting results, appreciation for life.. I am using a http://continue.to/prosperity lifestyle "bagua" approach to my life.

By focus on goals and gratitude for full life balance, I create a powerful intention for energized and nourished daily life. I have blogged on the notion of planning, and living a fulfilling, enriched and productive life.. All is well, and abundant-- getting better and more pleasantly surprising every day!

GOALS FOR THE WEEK:
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- Tamed the communications beast- Reduced Email, Managed Address Books, some work remains for Deliverables.
- Radical decluttering released old energy, business challenges created a bit more to be working on.
- Attracting several great new sources for job seeker resumes--great candidates looking for great jobs.
o Launched eCandidates Forum to attract more job seekers, and serve them better.

- Complete a Sales and Marketing Plan for the next quarters revenue attraction.
- Health Program 4 times cardio, 3 times weight training.
- Renew and Reconnect 3 Personal Relationships.

1. Attracting Abundant Wealth:
- Affirm Prosperity as my divine right.
- Refine message of intention towards abundance.
- Wealth/Success focus in moments of negative energy.

2. Evolving Self, Career, Work Direction:
- Deliver Performance Mapping.
- Close Calendar for October, Open November.
- First Draft Criticality Communications Plan.
- First Draft Helios FAQ and Comms Plan.

3. Foundations on Knowledge, Harmony, and Wisdom:
- Explore and visualize Successful Sales and Marketing Knowledge
- Explore healthy balanced nutrition (protein carbo mix, natural foods)

4. Foundations on Health:
- Several nights of restorative sleep.
- Log workouts and metabolic diet progress.
- Choice triggers for awareness during work related stressors.
- More veggies and balanced nutrition.

Affirmations:
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* I delight in possibility and prosperity thinking and am experiencing the dramatic changes in all areas of life!

* I have unlimited choices, with opportunities abounding! Prosperty presents itself in abundant and unexpected ways-- a reminder that the universe, not type A hardwork, is the source.

* I drink in prosperity as a conscious choice. Problems I encounter only creates new opportunities to bring me valuable lessons bringing me closer to the fulfillment of my purpose, and the enrichment of those I serve.

Dawn
http://linkedin.com/in/dmular

Monday: Goals and Gratitude Day..

2006-10-23T04:29:00.000-07:00

Welcome! In this blog, I will journal goals, manifesting results, appreciation for life.. I am using a http://continue.to/prosperity lifestyle "bagua" approach to my life, as I am presently someone that with remarkable capacity and energy for purpose and creation, but often a bit incosiderate of gentle life balance.

By focus on goals and gratitude for full life balance, I create a powerful intention for energized and nourished daily life.

GOALS FOR THE WEEK:
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- Tame the communications beast- Email, Address Books, and Work Deliverables.
- Radical decluttering releasing old energy.
- Attracting 45 new job seeker resumes for great candidates looking for great jobs.
- Complete a Sales and Marketing Plan for the next quarters revenue attraction.
- Health Program 4 times cardio, 3 times weight training.
- Renew and Reconnect 3 Personal Relationships.

1. Attracting Abundant Wealth:
- Affirm Prosperity as my divine right.
- Refine message of intention towards abundance.
- Wealth/Success focus in moments of negative energy.

2. Evolving Self, Career, Work Direction:
- Deliver Performance Mapping.
- Close Calendar for October, Open November.
- First Draft Criticality Communications Plan.
- First Draft Helios FAQ and Comms Plan.

3. Foundations on Knowledge, Harmony, and Wisdom:
- Explore and visualize Successful Sales and Marketing Knowledge
- Explore healthy balanced nutrition (protein carbo mix, natural foods)

4. Foundations on Health:
- Recovering from sleep deprivation, retaining energetic balance.
- Log workouts and metabolic diet progress.
- Choice triggers for awareness during work related stressors.
- More veggies and balanced nutrition.

Affirmations:
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* I feel a delight in transforming poverty thinking to prosperity thinking and am embracing the dramatic changes in all areas of life!

* I have unlimited choices, with opportunities abounding! Prosperty presents itself in abundant and unexpected ways-- a reminder that the universe, not type A hardwork, is the source.