Tuesday, November 20, 2007

The Universe is alive and well..

I needed to get up early today, it was a choice I made last night.. one that will help me be prepared for the holidays. The challenge is that my sleep patterns have not been conducive to working from a schedule since pain and exhaustion seem to accompany "waking" hours or "waking me up" for hours.

Grateful to have a full night's sleep and not wake in pain! Delighted to have a call from my dear friend Carol who was alight with living life in balance and inspiration... Then a call from KJ, who affirmed for me to "trust" and to "be"-- I have the council I need, I just need to invest more trusting optimism that I am loved, I am guided, and all is well.

My husband is a schedule driven performer.. He is able to set an alarm and always wake on time, for anything and everything. Today he woke at 5:30 and I told him to try to wake me, but if I don't move, perhaps I need the sleep. He dutifully woke, and did this before taking part on his morning fitness regimen. I fell asleep.. He kindly let me.

Then at 5:53, the phone rang.. This or my child crying are the two auditory queues that always get my attention, enough to start thinking about what I need to do next. And so it was that a support call coming in for a product that is technically supported during business hours in the U.S. and should not be generating work before I wake, became that universal gift I needed to get going today.

Thank you Universe! All is well and good in the world. I am awake to witness this! AND then came the Abraham-Hicks message of the day: "

The joyous place you may be standing is temporary, and the abhorrent place that you may be standing is temporary. Your now reality is only a temporary, momentary culmination of what youve been thinking about"

Monday, October 29, 2007

Be Happy--- a friendly reminder

BE HAPPY!

Nice message on YouTube -- Be Happy --by His Eminence, the 12th Tai Situ Rinpoche

Reminds me of a similar message via YouTube video, "Don't Worry, Be Happy", that I know and love as sung by Bobby Mc Ferrin.



Both delivered with a joyful serenity
and open invitation to
please, explore
what being happy means to you, today!

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Friday, October 26, 2007

Ahhhh Autumn in Akron!!



October 2005: Seems like only yesterday we were dealing with "our baby" and having just moved to OH. Our first year in the Akron Area, Caitlyn dressed up like a little angel.. She was fascinated by the pumpkins, and promptly destroyed them. :D



October 2006: Last fall my little Angel turned Elmo with the careful aid of her big brother Ninja!

Caitlyn understood the drill much more this year, and was able to keep up with the big kids.

The neighborhood is all a buzz on Halloween night and it is such a happy feeling. Elena and Lee up the street are the owners of the home to envy for every school age kid on the block, with their whimiscal Halloween decorations and craftworks that would make Martha Stewart jealous!

October 2007:
It will be this stunningly beautiful only a few more days!! Autumn is my favorite seasons, it seems to me magical how leaves so green, can suddenly turn gold and the most shocking scarlet colors, painting the scenery and transforming overnight..

This Halloween year Caitlyn is 3 years old Princess, Kyle is 8 an 8 year old Spryo the Dragon -- a favorite from his video games! Today is my son's party at school. Tonight is my daughters party at day care.

I am hoping the Unicef Trick or Treat for others can's come today, as our neighborhood trick or treat is Sunday.. I guess if it does not arrive in time, then we trick or treat Wednesday for the kids, and we take them to the commercial trick or treat for the Unicef fundraiser. Unicef was my son's idea, and a beautiful one.



Sandy Mitchell did a great on About.com feature
on the celebration of autumn in the Akron OH
area.
Stan Hywet Hall and Gardens graces
70 acres of impeccably manicured gardens
against a regal backdrop -- perfect
showcase for the autumn splendors.

Friday, October 19, 2007

Starting to collect healthy holiday recipe ideas

Looking for lovely holiday recipes that are healthy, gluten free, low in white sugar and unhealthy flours, but still imparting the magic of the holidays.

For Thanksgiving our tradition is tradition-- apple cider or sparkling apple cider- turkey, homemade cranberry sauce, rolls stuffing, mashed potatoes, gravy, and pies for dessert. I am looking for fun ideas to introduce more healthy alternatives to my traditional menu, while still letting our family and guests know that our meals are indeed a labor of love and tasty at the same time.

RESOURCES I FOUND INTERESTING:
Cleveland Clinic Ultimate Thanksgiving Meal Makeover
Lucinda's Gluten Free, but Pretty Traditional Thanksgiving
GlutenFree Girl Blogspot
Karina's Kitchen- Gluten Free Goddess
Ayurveda (Nice Dressing Recipe can be modified-- blend own herbs use GF Bread, etc)
Celiac Sprue Recipes

Recipes I might want to try:

Got ideas? Please feel free to share them!

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Feeling Good by Doing Good.. (October Ideas)

October Tiny tips for Terrific Community and World Wellness. The first in a series of Feeling Good by Doing Good Brainstorming ideas. Please share comments or resources you have found with great ideas and hints for future months!

For October: The weather shifts from warm to cool of autumn.. Wellness is a gift that keeps a warm glow of giving, when shared with others leading up to the holidays. Got family coming for the holidays? A dear friend of mine donates at least a family vacation a year to building communities-- homes, hospitals and schools where needed.. There is much more we can do to create this warm glow of giving, and it starts in October, and can carry you through the new year.. This will be our Feng Shui Series of sort of "being" the change you want to see in the world, through tips and resources..

  1. Get rid of what you don't want, to make room for what you do want.
  2. What can you add to holiday traditions to give a warm and meaningful community glow?
  3. Create a goal of gratitude to share and cultivate a feeling of community.
  4. Create a tradition of meaning that extends your good will.
    • Our 8 year old and his neighbors are trick or treating for Unicef this year WITH their Halloween, because some kids don't have the health that they enjoy.
    • For Thanksgiving, our neighbor has a red wagon brigade to collect for the local soup kitchens who need more help and resources than ever in our area!
    • In preparation for the holidays, cleanout and donate to meaningful charities (local shelters, national or global agencies, Salvation Army) the clothing, blankets and housewares we do not use, to benefit those who do not have them.

Event Ideas and Community Resources:

October- ONE Campaign, Breast Cancer, Domestic Abuse Awareness, Unicef.

  • Unicef -- Good potential ideas during Trick Or Treat OR check out eCards.
    • 6 cents provides water for a thirsty child
    • $1 can provide immunization for a kid, preventing measles for life
    • $2 provides nutrition to three hungry kids
    • $17 can provide immunization for one child for life against the top six child-killing diseases: measles, polio, diphtheria, whooping cough, tetanus and tuberculosi
    • $52 can provide 2 micro-filters supplying safe needed drinking water to large families or school
    • $100 can vaccinate 200 children against polio
    • $150 can provide 2,500 packets of Oral Rehydration Salts to help save the lives of children suffering from diarrheal dehydration due to drinking contaminated water
    • $176 buys school supplies for 80 kids
    • $318 can provide a hot air sterilizer for sterilizing medical instruments
    • $450 can supply warm blankets for 150 children in an emergency
    • $581 can provide a Supplementary Dry Feeding kit that can feed 500 moderately malnourished children
    • $750 can buy a sturdy tent for emergency shelter for a family
    • $880 can supply 5 “School-in-a-Box” kits of educational materials for a teacher & 80 children.
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Saturday, September 29, 2007

Helping Friends Guest Bloggers are welcome in October..

The Helping Friends Career Network honors those professionals in our network who are professional leaders in their trade, and strong survivors of Breast Cancer. In the honor of these strong people and our community, we honor the time and opportunity that friendship affords our community well being.

Thank you for Being a Friend, and join us as:

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month!

This year, an estimated 40,460 women will die from breast cancer in the United States alone. Death rates from breast cancer have been declining thanks to earlier detection screening, increased awareness, and improved treatment.

The key to a cancer survivor's success is 53-63% improved with early detection and treatment. Healthcare becomes an important issue. Throughout the month of October, we will share stories, news, events and tips for supporting our friends who have been there and survived, or are facing cancer today.

If you would like to be a guest blogger during this month, we would welcome blog stories of inspiration, help, tips for working while undergoing treatment, professional tips for cancer survivors, telecommuting stories, etc.

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Contact me via Plaxo, if you are interested in participating and sharing stories or resources. We empower people by being a community who is actively caring, sharing and helping one another!

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Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Deliberate Creation, The law of attraction, or grumpiness.


I pride myself on my ability to see clearly and deliver despite turmoil and disruption. When I say I will do something, I generally have the primary and fall back plans in place, but let me be perfectly honest.. the fall back plan is generally me doing alot of work at the end to produce a product that has had inadequate participation. Perhaps for me the lesson is in the choice.

Working late last night because some part of me believes that if someone else fails, I can still prevail on time, on budget, and in perfect harmony. Okay it was a nice thought, but a nicer thought was that card I pulled from the Teachings of Abraham Well Being deck today.
"When you have a problem, a desire exudes forth from you, and Source hears it and answers immediately. Once you remove your attention from the problem, you then allow the solution. Give birth to the question and let it go-- and follow the answer to the flow."

My interpretation of the matter is this: "The problem I am trying to solve is x, the question I ask is how to solve x. Perhaps that is not the problem.. My belief around efforting and earning, paying the price, and work might be the better study, if it becomes my source of grumpiness. Why grumpiness? Because I am trying so hard to make more productive choices, and to allow a more flexible approach to unveil.. Doing so respectfully, realistically, and directly, I find myself grumpy that it seems my objectives are being compromised by others actions.

Maybe I need to ask a different question. In any case, the universe seems to know my needs whether or not I am clear in the asking:

This morning's Abraham Hicks quote:

"Because others cannot vibrate in your experience, they cannot affect the outcome of your experience. They can hold their opinions, but unless their opinion affects your opinion, their opinion matters not at all. A million people could be pushing against you, and it would not negatively affect you unless you push back. They are affecting what happens in their experience. They are affecting their point of attraction -- but it does not affect you unless you push against them. All Is Well"

For today.. For this moment, when I feel the urge to accept responsibility for others failure to deliver, I will instead return to a point of honesty, and speak from the heart. I will also return to a point of gratitude, for the many people in my life that I recognize do create a quality outcome, care about one another and deliver. The problem is not everyone, or even out there, the problem is my attachment to the problem for all it's familiarity.. I am willing for this to no longer be a part of my story. :D

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Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Remembering and Love on September 11, 2001



People matter. They always matter, and always will matter. Sometimes the sensitivity leaves us so raw that we question our ability to recover and restore our connection to a more peaceful, useful source. And yet we can recover, we can restore, we can rebuild, and we can remember.

"We are at war and this will cost us a great deal. Who is responsible and what do we do?" I have seen today the reruns of news, the confusion and chaos of 091101. It rained today in New York. Six years ago 'tore across our history", remarked Mayor Bloomberg, the men and women in official uniforms, and those volunteers that said those are my neighbors, let me help".

Our sense of connection to our humanity, the fragile conditions of fear.. the shortness of life..the compassion.... all was heightened on that day. At 11:45 September 11, 2001, the city, shrouded in a thick debris as the towers, the lives, the business paper work, had fallen and the chaos had it's rise in the form of an overpowering layer of sorrow. We honor 3,000 people lost in this solemn moment- 2,750 in the World Trade Center alone. We can not underestimate that pain, nor can we soothe the feeling of loss and terrific trauma. Emotional trauma was high.. Painful life experience as we came to terms with the volume of disaster that had fallen on our world.

For several years, I have appreciated the gravity of loss, offered solemly on the CNN Memorial. This depth of corporate and personal loss runs deep and lingers long. My neighbors are related to Todd Beamer who perished in Flight 93. To allow another's strength and boldness to affect you in a positive way, is essential and refreshing. My friends and neighbors shared a lovely memorial article written by Todd's former university alma matter. They talk about taking things lightly and not allowing anger to overwhelm our better selves. I love living in proximity to that level of humanitarian maturity.

How do we, as world citizens, bring recovery and appropriate memorial to the lives lost on September 11, 2001, and the lives lost that followed in the name of a "war on terror"?

I know and knew the World Trade Center's long before the attacks that morning. Sun Microsystems had offices, and systems in the World Trade Center, that our Help Desk served, and a few of us had worked a good many weekends responding to help desk issues arising from that area. One of our peers had moved to New York to be a System Administrator in WTC02, just several short months prior.

The pain and sorrow we felt by wanting to stop the pain, stop the bleeding, stop the torture-- was clouded by our duty to do what must be done. Like so many, I felt a responsibility to speak for kindness in response to 091101. Using the talents we possessed to help restore balance, love, and compassion in times of terror was most important for many of us.. in times of devastating loss.

We remember that life is precious as we observe the past, not wishing to shut the door on it, but wishing to give it proper memorial, and learning a new sense of freedom from tyranny, a sense of gravity from the incident, and a renewed sense of purpose towards healing and helping one another.

We can offer more than empty loss. In the day of it's happening and the years that followed the violence becomes difficult to rationalize, to justify, or manage.
  • How will we need to be of service as a result of this tragedy?
  • How do we allow healing to replace heartache?
  • How do we care in a way that people are really transformed with a loving resilience to face whatever life hands us with a relative grace?
Let us not minimize the loss, let us not commercialize ,but respectfully remember and begin to heal and to be an agent of healing.
We can know a new freedom and a new happiness, by remembering, mindful observance of our past, without wishing to shut and bar the door on the discomfort.

We can be an agent of peace and uncommon love.
Let that become the greater power to the depth of our human condition.
We can feel the loss, while lighten-ing the loads of those who hurt more.

"Building a foundation for the future in the here and now. " Renowned Buddhist Monk, Thich Nhat Hahn spoke recently on a visit to CO. "We need to open our eyes in order to get in touch with the paradise of forms and colors."

TIME: Faces of Ground Zero
Dallas Morning News: Richardson TX Former Head of Todd M Beamer still mindful of love!
Facebook Memorials: Remember 9/11. To Heal on September 11.

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Saturday, September 08, 2007

Healing and the Empathic Healer

Defining and managing involves both accepting and managing, or denying and ignoring, the gifts and challenges of empathy. As an empath, it is very clear of being able to receive information that others might need help expressing. The roles and responsibilities of an empath are tricky as we learn to navigate this 'gift', I found this article about male shamanism, gender neutral enough to be useful.

There was never a doubt that I had a gift of empathic proportion, the doubt for me was whether I can use it productively, without taking on the immense sorrows of others, and experiencing their horrors as my own, feeling obligated to listen to every detail until I was clear on what my role would be.

Accepting an empathic existence allows the benefits of an applied framework for addressing human issues of epic proportion. My first experiences with my empathic skills were uncomfortable and personally very painful.. I did not understand my role, or why I was receiving this information. I also did not understand why I had this ability and for that reception, what I was to do with it, other than received advance warnign that unpleasantry was getting ready to happen.

Infancy Stages for me started when I was 6 years old. I was born with 10 living grandparents, which also met a good many of my grandparents died from when I was 6 to around 12. On the moment of their death in the middle of the night I would waken with a sickening feeling of responsibility to "pay attention" because there is "something" that must be done. By the morning when the phone rang to report of a relatives departure I was crying before confirmed knowledge because I knew... and at 6, at some level, I felt responsible for the discomfort.

Teen Stages in my experience occured when I was able to converse with someone I knew who had passed. That it was always about death and loss, was painful to me still. In fact it would feel as if the pain attached with the loss and the sorrow I felt with being able to received the calls from others, but not being able to 'call' those I loved. It felt as if it were all one way communications.

Midlife Crisis Stages were represented by a longer and extended period of "reruns", experiencing others critical moments in greater detail until it was clear what I was to do with the message. Imagine if you can, having a repetitive sort of death in a hospital dream, with all the accompanying feelings of panic, mingled with bright lights and fast moving professionals around you, that feeling of not being done, and knowing you were... So many things left unsaid. This rerun would occur for 7 months until I was clear who it was attributed to, and what I was to help with.

Lessons will repeat until their purpose is clear, or our own "human" condition overshadows it.

So much to be learned about being a better listener so I can more efficiently know what is needed to come to a more peaceful place So reading with interest how others manage to be grounded, and yet useful/practical.

I had a dream about a spiritual healer coming through our neighborhood. In a crimson robe, but barefoot by choice. Why? He explained that this allowed him to sense and heal, as he walks through a path. The exercise of practice involved receiving and allowing a peaceful transformation to be sparked.

I think it is possible to provide relief more efficiently. I know I hear profound spiritual guidance, I wander how much clearer I could be.. How much more useful, if it did not take so long for me toget the message?

Is it possible to sense and heal without knowinug the person who is hurting?
How is it possible to be sensitive enough to respond and heal, but grounded enough to stay healthy?

Thursday, September 06, 2007

Wednesday, September 05, 2007

Life, Kids, and Business Travel


I am in Colorado on business travel this week, and getting ALOT done. From my 8th floor window, I have a lovely view of the city lights. Last night I enjoyed the fitness center and a most excellent workout, after a lovely dinner with friends. But one constant is missing-- my kids!

I want to be kind of like Dawn Mular, business person, who has the life style of Angelina Jolie--- who lives and works her passions, and her kids are with her on the trip. I don't want Angelina's filming hours, so I have created a more appealing picture of my dream: Last night I talked to my 3 year old before her bedtime:

“Mommy, when are you coming home on the arrplane to tucka me in?”

Melted my heart, and made me remember why we all work so hard.. Also made me remember that I really like the choices I made to work PRIMARILY from home. Rock on Telecommuters, Rock on!

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Thursday, August 23, 2007

The Dalai Lama-- Wisdom of the Heart

This is beautiful and practical wisdom...



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Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.
Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
Sleep is the best meditation.
Spend some time alone every day.
We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.
Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection.
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them.
The ultimate authority must always rest with the individual's own reason and critical analysis.



Related News
Finding nirvana - Auburn Journal
Beauty within the pain - American Chronicle
How death led to a new life - The News Journal
Relics of Buddhist spiritual leaders go on tour - Sacramento Bee

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Watching the trends...  One of my friends negotiated a great salary for herself this week.  The key to her success was knowing her skills, and having rehearsed in advance how to manage expectations. 

Here are some recent clips of interviewing and job salary news..  What else have you read lately that you found inspirational? 

Wishing you career excellence!

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Monday, August 20, 2007

Forward Foregiveness


Forward foregiveness has become an exercise in seeing and releasing the past in proper perspective. Part of letting go, (guilt, shame, sorrow, intense fear, post traumatic stress disorder) involved knowing when to release an experience, and allow the event that once held you, to pass, becoming ever part of the fabric of who you are, but allowing some new and beautiful patterns to emerge. This is not an exercise in rational debate, so much as a practice of radical love.

It had been 20 years since I have experienced the events of that night, and yet like a old sports injury, I found myself reviewing frame for frame, the night I survived a criminal hostage situation-- replaying the events with a critical eye for what I could do if such a horror ever happened again.

  • Could I have jumped out of a moving van, recovered balance, and gotten away sooner?
  • Could I have reasoned with my attacker more rationally and avoided the more brutal parts of the assault?
  • Could I have used my fear more effectively to emit a different outcome?
The 'business sense' that follows surviving a violent crime is intense. Each image etched in my mind, reframed and presented in technical color for all it's graphic violence. Like a Sunday Football Player, I kept that footage locked away for when my game was strong enough to analyze my performance. In the "game" I had already forgiven my opponent-- he was stronger than I, faster than I, and much more unafraid of the consequence of his own actions.

I was attacked by an angry Vietnam Veteran, straight out of jail for attempted murder, in a crystal meth induced flashback. His training, his lifestyle, his very life experience was a study in repetitive fear-- in survival of the fittest- and in kill or be killed because it is all that threatening.

There is nothing 'logical' about the randomness of this event. It happened 20 years ago, and curious that over time, I feel obligated to examine to bring out the performance footage from the far far past to re-assess my 'disaster recovery performance'?

I had forgiven him. Being angry with someone with a propensity for violence in unresolved issues is a sure way to keep yourself stuck. Releasing it without examination is as well. How to acknowledge a horrific event head on and allow it to pass becomes the issue? How to forgive and release the event to the sands of time?

Observe, appreciate and move on. Radical and forward forgiveness is about being painstakingly bold in our analysis and observation. Not regretting the past, nor wishing to shut the door on it, appears to require radical forward forgiveness. It has been 20 years, and I have begun to know a new freedom in the spirit of forgiveness, a new peace from putting aside the remnants of a past trauma--- really putting it away with archival care means really acknowledging it's existence, appreciating it's lessons, but most importantly, allowing it to be part of the fabric of my being.

From this event, I have learned and grown. I have indeed moved on from the trauma that overcame me. At the time, it seemed that living through this event was the worst thing that could have happened. Having done that I have found a new freedom and strength of being making me less susceptible to self criticism. Forgiveness means knowing and seeing the truth for what it is, and allowing it to be part of you-- for good, bad, or ugly-- the best and worst, the darkest and light-- at your essence is still creative you. So what, if the universe has more confidence in you, than you have in yourself, you will find the capacity overtime to mirror that strength and beauty.

My manifest:

  • I trust that all is happening for a reason, and in the ugliest of life experiences, can live beauty.
  • I trust that we have a purpose, and all is well because it is happening on purpose.
  • I realize that we have more control than we give ourselves credit for, and sometimes we try to overexert ourseles in a vain attempt to demonstrate false control.


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Saturday, August 18, 2007

Dreaming about being the love you want to see in the world.

What a delicious and lovely dream I had last night. In the neighborhood where I now live, present time, I dreamt that we were all looking for something. I dreamt of Amy and Cara, Eric, and Addy, of our neighbors trying to find the art work that was intended to be a young boy's view of the spiritual significance of a 'coronation chalice'-- some sort of elegant cup that seemed to hold him when he was younger, and he spent a life time trying to rediscover that.

Peace and sheer serenity came through when a man, of small stature and simple needs walked through the neighborhood, emanating love and joy to such a level that the dogs and cats, the young children stopped doing everything to observe his techniques and gentle way of being a channel for love. He was dressed in a sort of comfortable brushed cotton monk outfit in red, and walked without shoes, to maintain contact with the earth, and sense where more attention is needed. You must be the change you want to see in the world-- he suggested this with actions so clear that words were unnecessary.

Living by best example, becoming more aware of what is going on, we become more open channels of love, for we are on this earth, a very short time, and perhaps we are looking for the wrong things?

My observations:
  1. Love is all that really matters, and we need to sense and respond in loving kindness, anything else is unpleasant distraction.
  2. We have become so protective of our children, that we protect them from the greater joy that they know even better than we how to be in touch.
  3. Fear is a mighty discomfort, that separates us from the real person we want to be more of the time. Kindness is simple and based upon the regular decision to stay grounded, stay feeeling and love one another.
My questions:

  1. What is the symbolic or cultural significance of a coronation chalice/cup?
  2. What type of holy person was it walking through my neigborhood with bare feet, and red robes? How does everyone just know he is love, and nothing more?
  3. How do we become more rooted in possibilities of emanating love to heal the hurts of our world?
  4. Could it be that inflammation and environmental allergies of sorts keep us stuck in a feeling of blocked-ness? Could we flow love better when we are less attached to the grown up outcome?
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Wednesday, August 15, 2007

Curiosity Enlightened this Cat. on Healthier Eating

After a month on the detox diet eliminating all potential allergens, we have found ourselves feeling much better. So how do people who choose to live this way all the time do it? I decided it was time to find out.. And here are some resources I found on the path. My husband and I are partners in this activity to learn and discover more about processed sugar and gluten free living.


First on Ning, I was pleased to find some great resources:
View my profile on Gluten Intolerance or Celiac Disease

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Some Health Benefits to learning of Celiac Disease:


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Wednesday, August 01, 2007

Day 22 of Whole Foods Invigoration


I heard this yesterday, and decided to stop holding my breath. "Breathe in- optimism, Breathe out- fear."

Day 22 of our whole foods invigoration.
This is the first time my husband and I have gone for 3 weeks without refined food, sugar, artificial sweeteners, soda, milk, cheese, margarine, bread, gluten, malt, honey, and caffeine. This week we reintroduced poultry and seafood into our diet- so far so good, in fact, that little bit of protein seems to make my workouts more efficient.

I am cooling down from a magnificent work out with my trainer at Lifestyles. Jason is great, because he pushes me, just a little more than I really think I can do, and at the end of the workout, I feel like superwoman. Amazing on the lack of sleep I have had this past 3 days, that I have such a delicious sense of well being!

So far Kevin has lost almost 10 pounds and several inches.
I have lost 19 pounds and almost a foot-- no not one of those 2 I walk on, but significant inches!

Yesterday was a challenging day at work, and I never realized how I have trained my body to just do whatever it takes to get me through the moment. I had a network problem that was completely out of my control, and I had 3 meetings today to get ready for. Don't 'they' understand I am busy, I want a sandwich, darn it -- and dessert--- you know, the kind with real bread, creamy horseradish, beef, and cheddar cheese crumbles melted with a sided of aus jus. For dessert, something with dark chocolate and carmel sauce, and a cup of coffee-- that way I can get everything done in my plan, even if the outage got in the way.

Breathe out fear.. I let me friends in on the deep inside joke that is my psyche. I don't like that feeling of being out of control. From a place of sheer fear, I start to make myself and my dreams more verbal-- my health goals, my career goals, my professional productivity... Fear is a bad and wicked spiral staircase to a place that gets hotter, and more rapid, to a vertigo like place.

For me, fear is this deep seeded belief that I will make a mistake in life, so big that I will be left alone, penniless, failing, not a friend in the world.

Breathe in optimism.... Okay so what happens if everything is NOT done on time? What breaks if I need to reset expectation? Only my disappointment in myself for not being and doing all I can to get things done. I am responsible. I am responsible for my best productivity, and most of the time I get alot of things done, within my control, but clearly the issue is my belief that I can control all elements of the business nature, and that is expecting the impossible. I can do many things. I can do more things, by being a little less unreasonable on myself. I am training new muscles now, new disciplines. Inconvenience is part of that training, flexibility is another part, and a muscle well worked, never atrophies.

Breathe in faithful optimism: Miracles DO happen. Dreams DO come true. I have DONE way more than I have failed at in life. I am not unique in my feelings of fear and pain avoidance, I am simply choosing a unique approach that is different for me in that I will laugh at it lightly, to observe it and let it pass.

Laughing at my own neurosis? You bet!

It can not be any more insane than believing comfort food can ease discomfort of a challenging work environment. Part of the faithful optimism view that I have taken however, is that we have immense power and choice-- to retain or release a belief system that serves, or fails to serve us.

What's my next goal? 15 more pounds to go, and then the focus turns to endurance training, and seeing if it's time to get off some of this medication, and find something new to enjoy in place of the trips to the doctors office, emergency rooms, or time spent hiding from the world because I am too hideous, too whatever to be seen. There is a new me emerging, and I choose to get to know that side, even better than my well established neurosis routine. :D