Helping Friends Guest Bloggers are welcome in October..

The Helping Friends Career Network honors those professionals in our network who are professional leaders in their trade, and strong survivors of Breast Cancer. In the honor of these strong people and our community, we honor the time and opportunity that friendship affords our community well being.

Thank you for Being a Friend, and join us as:

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month!

This year, an estimated 40,460 women will die from breast cancer in the United States alone. Death rates from breast cancer have been declining thanks to earlier detection screening, increased awareness, and improved treatment.

The key to a cancer survivor's success is 53-63% improved with early detection and treatment. Healthcare becomes an important issue. Throughout the month of October, we will share stories, news, events and tips for supporting our friends who have been there and survived, or are facing cancer today.

If you would like to be a guest blogger during this month, we would welcome blog stories of inspiration, help, tips for working while undergoing treatment, professional tips for cancer survivors, telecommuting stories, etc.

RESOURCES:

• Breast Cancer and the Work Place (Diet, Nutrition, Coping, Self Care, Exercise)
  
• Helping A Friend With Breast Cancer
• How you Can Help (UK based Breast Cancer Campaign)
  
• I'm2YoungForThis.org
  
• Susan G. Komen Foundation
  

Contact me via Plaxo, if you are interested in participating and sharing stories or resources. We empower people by being a community who is actively caring, sharing and helping one another!

Dawn Mular
Founder, Helping Friends Career Network
3867 West Market Street #102
Akron, OH 44333
USA

Deliberate Creation, The law of attraction, or grumpiness.

I pride myself on my ability to see clearly and deliver despite turmoil and disruption. When I say I will do something, I generally have the primary and fall back plans in place, but let me be perfectly honest.. the fall back plan is generally me doing alot of work at the end to produce a product that has had inadequate participation. Perhaps for me the lesson is in the choice.

Working late last night because some part of me believes that if someone else fails, I can still prevail on time, on budget, and in perfect harmony. Okay it was a nice thought, but a nicer thought was that card I pulled from the Teachings of Abraham Well Being deck today.
"When you have a problem, a desire exudes forth from you, and Source hears it and answers immediately. Once you remove your attention from the problem, you then allow the solution. Give birth to the question and let it go-- and follow the answer to the flow."

My interpretation of the matter is this: "The problem I am trying to solve is x, the question I ask is how to solve x. Perhaps that is not the problem.. My belief around efforting and earning, paying the price, and work might be the better study, if it becomes my source of grumpiness. Why grumpiness? Because I am trying so hard to make more productive choices, and to allow a more flexible approach to unveil.. Doing so respectfully, realistically, and directly, I find myself grumpy that it seems my objectives are being compromised by others actions.

Maybe I need to ask a different question. In any case, the universe seems to know my needs whether or not I am clear in the asking:

This morning's Abraham Hicks quote:

"Because others cannot vibrate in your experience, they cannot affect the outcome of your experience. They can hold their opinions, but unless their opinion affects your opinion, their opinion matters not at all. A million people could be pushing against you, and it would not negatively affect you unless you push back. They are affecting what happens in their experience. They are affecting their point of attraction -- but it does not affect you unless you push against them. All Is Well"

For today.. For this moment, when I feel the urge to accept responsibility for others failure to deliver, I will instead return to a point of honesty, and speak from the heart. I will also return to a point of gratitude, for the many people in my life that I recognize do create a quality outcome, care about one another and deliver. The problem is not everyone, or even out there, the problem is my attachment to the problem for all it's familiarity.. I am willing for this to no longer be a part of my story. :D

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Remembering and Love on September 11, 2001

People matter. They always matter, and always will matter. Sometimes the sensitivity leaves us so raw that we question our ability to recover and restore our connection to a more peaceful, useful source. And yet we can recover, we can restore, we can rebuild, and we can remember.

"We are at war and this will cost us a great deal. Who is responsible and what do we do?" I have seen today the reruns of news, the confusion and chaos of 091101. It rained today in New York. Six years ago 'tore across our history", remarked Mayor Bloomberg, the men and women in official uniforms, and those volunteers that said those are my neighbors, let me help".

Our sense of connection to our humanity, the fragile conditions of fear.. the shortness of life..the compassion.... all was heightened on that day. At 11:45 September 11, 2001, the city, shrouded in a thick debris as the towers, the lives, the business paper work, had fallen and the chaos had it's rise in the form of an overpowering layer of sorrow. We honor 3,000 people lost in this solemn moment- 2,750 in the World Trade Center alone. We can not underestimate that pain, nor can we soothe the feeling of loss and terrific trauma. Emotional trauma was high.. Painful life experience as we came to terms with the volume of disaster that had fallen on our world.

For several years, I have appreciated the gravity of loss, offered solemly on the CNN Memorial. This depth of corporate and personal loss runs deep and lingers long. My neighbors are related to Todd Beamer who perished in Flight 93. To allow another's strength and boldness to affect you in a positive way, is essential and refreshing. My friends and neighbors shared a lovely memorial article written by Todd's former university alma matter. They talk about taking things lightly and not allowing anger to overwhelm our better selves. I love living in proximity to that level of humanitarian maturity.

How do we, as world citizens, bring recovery and appropriate memorial to the lives lost on September 11, 2001, and the lives lost that followed in the name of a "war on terror"?

I know and knew the World Trade Center's long before the attacks that morning. Sun Microsystems had offices, and systems in the World Trade Center, that our Help Desk served, and a few of us had worked a good many weekends responding to help desk issues arising from that area. One of our peers had moved to New York to be a System Administrator in WTC02, just several short months prior.

The pain and sorrow we felt by wanting to stop the pain, stop the bleeding, stop the torture-- was clouded by our duty to do what must be done. Like so many, I felt a responsibility to speak for kindness in response to 091101. Using the talents we possessed to help restore balance, love, and compassion in times of terror was most important for many of us.. in times of devastating loss.

We remember that life is precious as we observe the past, not wishing to shut the door on it, but wishing to give it proper memorial, and learning a new sense of freedom from tyranny, a sense of gravity from the incident, and a renewed sense of purpose towards healing and helping one another.

We can offer more than empty loss. In the day of it's happening and the years that followed the violence becomes difficult to rationalize, to justify, or manage.

• How will we need to be of service as a result of this tragedy?
• How do we allow healing to replace heartache?
• How do we care in a way that people are really transformed with a loving resilience to face whatever life hands us with a relative grace?

Let us not minimize the loss, let us not commercialize ,but respectfully remember and begin to heal and to be an agent of healing.
We can know a new freedom and a new happiness, by remembering, mindful observance of our past, without wishing to shut and bar the door on the discomfort.

We can be an agent of peace and uncommon love.
Let that become the greater power to the depth of our human condition.
We can feel the loss, while lighten-ing the loads of those who hurt more.

"Building a foundation for the future in the here and now. " Renowned Buddhist Monk, Thich Nhat Hahn spoke recently on a visit to CO. "We need to open our eyes in order to get in touch with the paradise of forms and colors."

TIME: Faces of Ground Zero
Dallas Morning News: Richardson TX Former Head of Todd M Beamer still mindful of love!
Facebook Memorials: Remember 9/11. To Heal on September 11.

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Healing and the Empathic Healer

Defining and managing involves both accepting and managing, or denying and ignoring, the gifts and challenges of empathy. As an empath, it is very clear of being able to receive information that others might need help expressing. The roles and responsibilities of an empath are tricky as we learn to navigate this 'gift', I found this article about male shamanism, gender neutral enough to be useful.

There was never a doubt that I had a gift of empathic proportion, the doubt for me was whether I can use it productively, without taking on the immense sorrows of others, and experiencing their horrors as my own, feeling obligated to listen to every detail until I was clear on what my role would be.

Accepting an empathic existence allows the benefits of an applied framework for addressing human issues of epic proportion. My first experiences with my empathic skills were uncomfortable and personally very painful.. I did not understand my role, or why I was receiving this information. I also did not understand why I had this ability and for that reception, what I was to do with it, other than received advance warnign that unpleasantry was getting ready to happen.

Infancy Stages for me started when I was 6 years old. I was born with 10 living grandparents, which also met a good many of my grandparents died from when I was 6 to around 12. On the moment of their death in the middle of the night I would waken with a sickening feeling of responsibility to "pay attention" because there is "something" that must be done. By the morning when the phone rang to report of a relatives departure I was crying before confirmed knowledge because I knew... and at 6, at some level, I felt responsible for the discomfort.

Teen Stages in my experience occured when I was able to converse with someone I knew who had passed. That it was always about death and loss, was painful to me still. In fact it would feel as if the pain attached with the loss and the sorrow I felt with being able to received the calls from others, but not being able to 'call' those I loved. It felt as if it were all one way communications.

Midlife Crisis Stages were represented by a longer and extended period of "reruns", experiencing others critical moments in greater detail until it was clear what I was to do with the message. Imagine if you can, having a repetitive sort of death in a hospital dream, with all the accompanying feelings of panic, mingled with bright lights and fast moving professionals around you, that feeling of not being done, and knowing you were... So many things left unsaid. This rerun would occur for 7 months until I was clear who it was attributed to, and what I was to help with.

Lessons will repeat until their purpose is clear, or our own "human" condition overshadows it.

So much to be learned about being a better listener so I can more efficiently know what is needed to come to a more peaceful place So reading with interest how others manage to be grounded, and yet useful/practical.

I had a dream about a spiritual healer coming through our neighborhood. In a crimson robe, but barefoot by choice. Why? He explained that this allowed him to sense and heal, as he walks through a path. The exercise of practice involved receiving and allowing a peaceful transformation to be sparked.

I think it is possible to provide relief more efficiently. I know I hear profound spiritual guidance, I wander how much clearer I could be.. How much more useful, if it did not take so long for me toget the message?

Is it possible to sense and heal without knowinug the person who is hurting?
How is it possible to be sensitive enough to respond and heal, but grounded enough to stay healthy?

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Life, Kids, and Business Travel

I am in Colorado on business travel this week, and getting ALOT done. From my 8th floor window, I have a lovely view of the city lights. Last night I enjoyed the fitness center and a most excellent workout, after a lovely dinner with friends. But one constant is missing-- my kids!

I want to be kind of like Dawn Mular, business person, who has the life style of Angelina Jolie--- who lives and works her passions, and her kids are with her on the trip. I don't want Angelina's filming hours, so I have created a more appealing picture of my dream: Last night I talked to my 3 year old before her bedtime:

“Mommy, when are you coming home on the arrplane to tucka me in?”

Melted my heart, and made me remember why we all work so hard.. Also made me remember that I really like the choices I made to work PRIMARILY from home. Rock on Telecommuters, Rock on!

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