Thursday, December 04, 2008

Aromatherapy and Ayurveda Favorites


What Kind of Ayurvedics would suit you? There's a quiz from a previous blog on this topic. Pretty interesting stuff: http://dmfengshuilife.blogspot.com/2008/10/ayurveda-approach.html

I am often asked which Ayurvedic and Aromatherapy products I like. I like the combination of proven herbs and gentle pure products. One style does not fit all, but here are some of my favorite products:

For Aromatherapy: Arbonne: http://helpingfriends.myarbonne.com/

Arbonne Seasource Detox Spa Full Set

Arbonne Sea Salt Scrub exfoliating action of dead surface cells revealing brighter, healthier-looking skin Key Ingredients: Avocado and sweet almond extract with the pure and beneficial essential oils of Lemon Oil, with bright aromatic properties that increase vitality and awareness. and
Coriander which uplifts the spirit and senses, and adds an inviting scent



Amazon has a nice selection of most ayurvedic suppliers, so I start there-- and keep a list of favorite products in the health store. Bazaar of India is one of them, but there are multiple suppliers online.
  • Banyan Botanicals Ashwagandha Bala Oil
  • Banyan Botanicals Mental Clarity if I can't find
  • Vadik Brahmi
  • Planetary Herbals Triphala
  • Vadik Herbs Arjun

Sunday, October 26, 2008

Ayurveda Approach

I am a Kapha in Body, Pitta in Mind. What are you? Take the quiz and find out.

BODY Kapha: Water and Earth In balance, Kapha creates calmness, sweetness, and loyalty.
Out of balance, the Kapha type can cause weight gain, congestion, and resistance to healthy change.
Health Tips: http://health.indiamart.com/ayurveda/kapha-dosh.html

MIND Pitta: Fire and Water In balance, a Pitta is warm, intelligent, and a good leader.
Out of balance, the Pitta can be critical, irritable, and aggressive.
Characteristics: http://www.holisticonline.com/ayurveda/ayv-pitta-characteristics.htm
Best Diet: http://hubpages.com/hub/The_Best_Diet_For_Pitta_Dosha_Type
Food Selection: http://www.ehow.com/how_4489323_select-foods-pitta-ayurvedic-type.html


Detox Diet:

Eat: http://altmedicine.about.com/od/detoxcleansing/a/Foods_Eat.htm

Avoid: http://altmedicine.about.com/od/detoxcleansing/a/Foods_Avoid_2.htm

Thursday, June 05, 2008

Psychic Empathy and Magnetism...

For about 3 weeks I have been short circuiting and killing the appliances I love.. Light switches, another KVM Switch, 2 cell phone chargers, possibly a phone, a car alarm, and a laptop. I do not understand this situation, and found it rather inconvenient to have to keep replacing things I melted-- it makes me feel broken.. and unfixable.

Okay so in my day job I am way busy. The kids are needing some attention... and the Helping Friends Career Network is really making it's stride. All exciting and positive things, and yet magnetism is creating discomfort.

This discomfort takes the form of physical and mental discontent. While I am "ultra" magnetic, I also wrestle with a sense of "activity" while I experience a host of activities that must be sorted and ordered. Once ordered, there are some activities, I feel compelled to offer loving intention to.. There are other activities or 'unpleasant' truths that must be spoken, and I am receiving the words to share them... And then there is the giddy sort of news -- an exciting sense of well being that though someone is in their darkest, lightness is coming, and they just need to affirm that sense of well ness.

I have yet to encounter a resource for managing this gift and it's inconveniences-- well nothing more than patience. I have become willing to adjust medically, physically or balance stress better. I value as do others, my ability to sense, to communicate, and to motivate.

There is discomfort. This is unpleasant. This feels broken. Why can't I be normal? Such is the dance-- of abandonment, of guilt, of failure, and of taking that in stride. The discomfort will continue until I have taken the appropriate actions, however the actions, and sometimes the experiences I am receiving, are just unclear enough to create unpleasantry, without a face-- a sort of confusion to whether the experience I feel is my own or someone else's. Sometimes it is one situation or the other, possibly the pain from a previous experience helps me to connect and care about helping others to resolution.

3 interesting lessons this week:

1. We can all be more loving and open about our intentions and expressing the good in others.
2. We all need to love and be loved to feel in balance, so why do we waste time in unproductive fear, worry, uncertainty, sarcasm, or doubt.
3. So much of our life experience could be made better by simply respecting and caring for one another more than our homage to our ego.

A dramatic week, 3 of my friends are now working. I am getting to work with a bunch of interesting folks now- jobseekers and hiring managers-- we are finding one another and unique benefit to our collaboration.

Barack Obama gave a moving speech on setting clear intentions and activity to recognize the change we want to see begins with us.

THEN one of my dear colleagues, a supporter of all people, communicated an intention of committing suicide. I shudder thinking that this dear man , who is smart, articulate, helpful, warm, and compassionate, would die before knowing how much he was truly loved..

And for this day, I have decided to be the light I wish to see that does not blow out for the surge of energy, I will choose to be as consistent a source of love, of compassion and of optimism as I can be.. We all need this, and perhaps the greatest poverty is that feeling that no one cares what we say, or do..

Friday, May 30, 2008

Memorial Day 21 Years Later....


Memorial-- a blend of integration and peace with past, and seeing the present for what it is... More like an "onion" with many layers, than a solid mass of consistent reality.

Resources:

MEMORIAL DAY 21 YEARS LATER:
Forgiveness is more than healing, it is finding a completeness in acceptance and transcendance. Circle of life.. circle of pain... the key is in recognizing when you are traversing a path, and when you are creating a circle.

It was around memorial day weekend some 21 years ago, when I survived the violent assault at the hands of a stranger--a Vietnam Veteran in some sort of drug induced, recurring Post Traumatic Stress Disorder event. You know that it was not until this Memorial Day that my father and I talked about it over coffee... The importance of caring, really caring for one another, and our soldiers..

Dad told me about his Army service in Germany.. Of my Grandpa's service in WW2.. and I could finally tell a family member in my immediate family something I thought I never could about understanding the situation of what happens when you are forced to fight to survive..

It would take me some time to be able to understand that responsibility we have to care for one another... and what could happen when we fail to recognize and act on the perception that all is not well.

Healing from my assault was something I was pretty sure might never happen.. that I would be forever broken... In retrospect, and time, I found a forgiveness.. Forgiveness of a man who never got the care he needed, a man who apparently suffers much and must continue to fight a war and take hostages for interrogation, to survive. I wonder what his family might have been like.. I wondered what happened that would cause a person to have lost so much, that it was easier to kill or be killed.

On Memorial Day, I choose not to war for peace.
I choose radical forgiveness and the optimism to define and act on better conditions.

I forgive "Bear" the soldier who fatigued himself, medicated himself, and still lived an unthinkable horror that played out in his mind so strong that all around him might feel his pain. He served our country, and probably gave alot for the time he was in Vietnam. Some came back with more of a burden than others.. It was not a contest, it was a reality to be managed.

I forgive myself for not being smarter when I was clearly out muscled. I tried to face recovery, as did my attacker, to fatigue and medicate myself to survive the trauma, that I was certain was way bigger than what I could handle. Before "Bear", I had not heard of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder-- we did not talk about that sort of thing.

From this experience, I have appreciated a new freedom, and a new happiness.. The sort of thing that comes from not regretting the past, nor wishing to shut the door on it... To be able to love, regardless of experience, to forgive others and to give for others to see a more optimistic possibility and reminder that they have way more capacity for love and recovery than they give themselves credit for.

Sunday, March 16, 2008

Optimistically Visionary

There is much wisdom to be learned from our attachment to what we perceive as our truth.
Truth is true, it is real, and it does not require agreement to be so.. It just is. It exists with many other truths., as much as it stands alone.

In our work, most of us enjoy being appreciated for our subject matter expertise. We pride ourselves in our vision, our experience, and our ability to detect and manage marketing or opreational issues for profitability. In business we sometimes feel like our success is contingent upon influencing others to see the issues that you are bringing with intention of mitigating the risk, the discomfort and inconvenience of the matter at hand.

A professional rub occurs for us in business when we perceive a threat that requires vision and strategy to correct, and instead the issue gets brushed aside, decommited, or unmanaged. Does this make the issue any less a truth? No of course not..

Could it be that we have values beyond that which we think we bring, that others appreciate about us. With or without our attachment to positive results, there is that feeling of belonging and being valued.

So how then can we detach our personal investment to recognize that influence and change can be gained by inspiring others to look beyond the present limitations to embrace a view for what might be possible. The truth is that meaningful change is rarely 'convenient" or "easy", but part of our professional drama appreciates the struggle.

Let us not however get so stuck in the limitations that we fail to recognize our own capacity for creating prosperity and productivity in any economy by simply working the issues and opportunities, one at a time, with consistency.

Friday, March 14, 2008

In order to experience Freedom and harmony..

Freefalling to space, she thought about how long she had fallen, tht she only has 2 more lengths of climbing material, and yet she fell silently to earth, landing on feet.

Sometimes we overestimate the negative logic and limit ourselves to only fear and worry.
Yes it's real, but so is it's optimistic alternative.

Friday, February 22, 2008

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Ayurvedic delights.

Ayurvedic References I like:

Ayurvedic Roots and Herbs Reference
Benefits of Ayurveda Blog
Improving Endometriosis.
Improving Hair Health.
Shaktiveda - Dr Mary Jo Cravatta can assist, even from a distance using "Messenger Pulse".

HERBAL REFERENCES:
* Arjun - Heart.
Ashwaganda - Improving Energy. Blood Levels..
* Brahmi - Memory, Stress.
* Jatamansi - Sleep, Improved Hair health.
* Triphala - Digestive regularity.

Sunday, January 13, 2008

Getting rid of what's unneeded to welcome what's needed

It is the first week of the Detox Diet- no potential allergens, allows the liver to cleanse itself and work more effectively. I have lost 5 pounds this week.

Week 2 gets more challenging, starting today. I am not a great fan of powdered, reconstituted drinks, so I have modified the diet to combine my breakfast and lunch fruit snacks, opting instead for a fruit smoothie-- no dairy on this diet, so I mix it with almond milk or herbal tea... any way I blend it with my favorite variety of frozen fruits.

Here is the week's plan:

SUNDAY: Superwoman Workout- circuit and fast track with high stepping. Well Being Thought of the Day.
  • Breakfast: 2 scoops rice powder blended smoothie with frozen fruit, carob, almond milk.
  • Lunch: 2 scoop smoothie and steamed broccoli with flaxseed oil.
  • Snack: 2 scoop smoothie.
  • Dinner: Steamed Rice and baby peas with flaxseed oil.

MONDAY: Run. Meditation: Find Peace of Mind.
  • Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
  • Lunch 2 scoop smoothie. Spinach Salad with raw green beans and carrots.
  • Snack: 2 scoop smoothie.
  • Dinner: Steamed broccoli, cauliflower, and carrots with olive oil and garlic vinegar.

TUESDAY: Tale of the Tape Tuesday. Meditation: Embracing Change Joyfully.
  • Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
  • Lunch: 2 scoop smothie. Herb salad with carrot.
  • Snack: Melon and berries.
  • Dinner: Baked acorn squash

WEDNESAY: Terrific Training workout and check in with my trainer. Well Being Thought of the Day
  • Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
  • Lunch: 2 scoop smothie. Steamed Broccoli and Green Beans.
  • Snack: Melon and berries.
  • Dinner: Steamed Rice and Spinach.

THURSDAY: Light Cardio or Yoga. Meditation: How to Meditate.
  • Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
  • Lunch: 2 scoop smoothie and steamed broccoli with flaxseed oil.
  • Snack: 2 scoop smoothie.
  • Dinner: Steamed Rice and baby peas with flaxseed oil.

FRIDAY: Light Cardio or Yoga. Inspiration Intention: Still the Mind, Stoke the Fitness Motivation.

  • Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
  • Lunch 2 scoop smoothie. Spinach Salad with raw green beans and carrots.
  • Snack: 2 scoop smoothie.
  • Dinner: Steamed broccoli, cauliflower, and carrots with olive oil and garlic vinegar.


SATURDAY: Light Cardio or Yoga Well Being Thought of the Day
  • Breakfast: 2 scoop smoothie.
  • Lunch: 2 scoop smothie. Herb salad with carrot.
  • Snack: Melon and berries.
  • Dinner: Baked acorn squash

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

The Universe is alive and well..

I needed to get up early today, it was a choice I made last night.. one that will help me be prepared for the holidays. The challenge is that my sleep patterns have not been conducive to working from a schedule since pain and exhaustion seem to accompany "waking" hours or "waking me up" for hours.

Grateful to have a full night's sleep and not wake in pain! Delighted to have a call from my dear friend Carol who was alight with living life in balance and inspiration... Then a call from KJ, who affirmed for me to "trust" and to "be"-- I have the council I need, I just need to invest more trusting optimism that I am loved, I am guided, and all is well.

My husband is a schedule driven performer.. He is able to set an alarm and always wake on time, for anything and everything. Today he woke at 5:30 and I told him to try to wake me, but if I don't move, perhaps I need the sleep. He dutifully woke, and did this before taking part on his morning fitness regimen. I fell asleep.. He kindly let me.

Then at 5:53, the phone rang.. This or my child crying are the two auditory queues that always get my attention, enough to start thinking about what I need to do next. And so it was that a support call coming in for a product that is technically supported during business hours in the U.S. and should not be generating work before I wake, became that universal gift I needed to get going today.

Thank you Universe! All is well and good in the world. I am awake to witness this! AND then came the Abraham-Hicks message of the day: "

The joyous place you may be standing is temporary, and the abhorrent place that you may be standing is temporary. Your now reality is only a temporary, momentary culmination of what youve been thinking about"

Monday, October 29, 2007

Be Happy--- a friendly reminder

BE HAPPY!

Nice message on YouTube -- Be Happy --by His Eminence, the 12th Tai Situ Rinpoche

Reminds me of a similar message via YouTube video, "Don't Worry, Be Happy", that I know and love as sung by Bobby Mc Ferrin.



Both delivered with a joyful serenity
and open invitation to
please, explore
what being happy means to you, today!

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Friday, October 26, 2007

Ahhhh Autumn in Akron!!



October 2005: Seems like only yesterday we were dealing with "our baby" and having just moved to OH. Our first year in the Akron Area, Caitlyn dressed up like a little angel.. She was fascinated by the pumpkins, and promptly destroyed them. :D



October 2006: Last fall my little Angel turned Elmo with the careful aid of her big brother Ninja!

Caitlyn understood the drill much more this year, and was able to keep up with the big kids.

The neighborhood is all a buzz on Halloween night and it is such a happy feeling. Elena and Lee up the street are the owners of the home to envy for every school age kid on the block, with their whimiscal Halloween decorations and craftworks that would make Martha Stewart jealous!

October 2007:
It will be this stunningly beautiful only a few more days!! Autumn is my favorite seasons, it seems to me magical how leaves so green, can suddenly turn gold and the most shocking scarlet colors, painting the scenery and transforming overnight..

This Halloween year Caitlyn is 3 years old Princess, Kyle is 8 an 8 year old Spryo the Dragon -- a favorite from his video games! Today is my son's party at school. Tonight is my daughters party at day care.

I am hoping the Unicef Trick or Treat for others can's come today, as our neighborhood trick or treat is Sunday.. I guess if it does not arrive in time, then we trick or treat Wednesday for the kids, and we take them to the commercial trick or treat for the Unicef fundraiser. Unicef was my son's idea, and a beautiful one.



Sandy Mitchell did a great on About.com feature
on the celebration of autumn in the Akron OH
area.
Stan Hywet Hall and Gardens graces
70 acres of impeccably manicured gardens
against a regal backdrop -- perfect
showcase for the autumn splendors.

Friday, October 19, 2007

Starting to collect healthy holiday recipe ideas

Looking for lovely holiday recipes that are healthy, gluten free, low in white sugar and unhealthy flours, but still imparting the magic of the holidays.

For Thanksgiving our tradition is tradition-- apple cider or sparkling apple cider- turkey, homemade cranberry sauce, rolls stuffing, mashed potatoes, gravy, and pies for dessert. I am looking for fun ideas to introduce more healthy alternatives to my traditional menu, while still letting our family and guests know that our meals are indeed a labor of love and tasty at the same time.

RESOURCES I FOUND INTERESTING:
Cleveland Clinic Ultimate Thanksgiving Meal Makeover
Lucinda's Gluten Free, but Pretty Traditional Thanksgiving
GlutenFree Girl Blogspot
Karina's Kitchen- Gluten Free Goddess
Ayurveda (Nice Dressing Recipe can be modified-- blend own herbs use GF Bread, etc)
Celiac Sprue Recipes

Recipes I might want to try:

Got ideas? Please feel free to share them!

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Feeling Good by Doing Good.. (October Ideas)

October Tiny tips for Terrific Community and World Wellness. The first in a series of Feeling Good by Doing Good Brainstorming ideas. Please share comments or resources you have found with great ideas and hints for future months!

For October: The weather shifts from warm to cool of autumn.. Wellness is a gift that keeps a warm glow of giving, when shared with others leading up to the holidays. Got family coming for the holidays? A dear friend of mine donates at least a family vacation a year to building communities-- homes, hospitals and schools where needed.. There is much more we can do to create this warm glow of giving, and it starts in October, and can carry you through the new year.. This will be our Feng Shui Series of sort of "being" the change you want to see in the world, through tips and resources..

  1. Get rid of what you don't want, to make room for what you do want.
  2. What can you add to holiday traditions to give a warm and meaningful community glow?
  3. Create a goal of gratitude to share and cultivate a feeling of community.
  4. Create a tradition of meaning that extends your good will.
    • Our 8 year old and his neighbors are trick or treating for Unicef this year WITH their Halloween, because some kids don't have the health that they enjoy.
    • For Thanksgiving, our neighbor has a red wagon brigade to collect for the local soup kitchens who need more help and resources than ever in our area!
    • In preparation for the holidays, cleanout and donate to meaningful charities (local shelters, national or global agencies, Salvation Army) the clothing, blankets and housewares we do not use, to benefit those who do not have them.

Event Ideas and Community Resources:

October- ONE Campaign, Breast Cancer, Domestic Abuse Awareness, Unicef.

  • Unicef -- Good potential ideas during Trick Or Treat OR check out eCards.
    • 6 cents provides water for a thirsty child
    • $1 can provide immunization for a kid, preventing measles for life
    • $2 provides nutrition to three hungry kids
    • $17 can provide immunization for one child for life against the top six child-killing diseases: measles, polio, diphtheria, whooping cough, tetanus and tuberculosi
    • $52 can provide 2 micro-filters supplying safe needed drinking water to large families or school
    • $100 can vaccinate 200 children against polio
    • $150 can provide 2,500 packets of Oral Rehydration Salts to help save the lives of children suffering from diarrheal dehydration due to drinking contaminated water
    • $176 buys school supplies for 80 kids
    • $318 can provide a hot air sterilizer for sterilizing medical instruments
    • $450 can supply warm blankets for 150 children in an emergency
    • $581 can provide a Supplementary Dry Feeding kit that can feed 500 moderately malnourished children
    • $750 can buy a sturdy tent for emergency shelter for a family
    • $880 can supply 5 “School-in-a-Box” kits of educational materials for a teacher & 80 children.
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Saturday, September 29, 2007

Helping Friends Guest Bloggers are welcome in October..

The Helping Friends Career Network honors those professionals in our network who are professional leaders in their trade, and strong survivors of Breast Cancer. In the honor of these strong people and our community, we honor the time and opportunity that friendship affords our community well being.

Thank you for Being a Friend, and join us as:

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month!

This year, an estimated 40,460 women will die from breast cancer in the United States alone. Death rates from breast cancer have been declining thanks to earlier detection screening, increased awareness, and improved treatment.

The key to a cancer survivor's success is 53-63% improved with early detection and treatment. Healthcare becomes an important issue. Throughout the month of October, we will share stories, news, events and tips for supporting our friends who have been there and survived, or are facing cancer today.

If you would like to be a guest blogger during this month, we would welcome blog stories of inspiration, help, tips for working while undergoing treatment, professional tips for cancer survivors, telecommuting stories, etc.

RESOURCES:

Contact me via Plaxo, if you are interested in participating and sharing stories or resources. We empower people by being a community who is actively caring, sharing and helping one another!

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Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Deliberate Creation, The law of attraction, or grumpiness.


I pride myself on my ability to see clearly and deliver despite turmoil and disruption. When I say I will do something, I generally have the primary and fall back plans in place, but let me be perfectly honest.. the fall back plan is generally me doing alot of work at the end to produce a product that has had inadequate participation. Perhaps for me the lesson is in the choice.

Working late last night because some part of me believes that if someone else fails, I can still prevail on time, on budget, and in perfect harmony. Okay it was a nice thought, but a nicer thought was that card I pulled from the Teachings of Abraham Well Being deck today.
"When you have a problem, a desire exudes forth from you, and Source hears it and answers immediately. Once you remove your attention from the problem, you then allow the solution. Give birth to the question and let it go-- and follow the answer to the flow."

My interpretation of the matter is this: "The problem I am trying to solve is x, the question I ask is how to solve x. Perhaps that is not the problem.. My belief around efforting and earning, paying the price, and work might be the better study, if it becomes my source of grumpiness. Why grumpiness? Because I am trying so hard to make more productive choices, and to allow a more flexible approach to unveil.. Doing so respectfully, realistically, and directly, I find myself grumpy that it seems my objectives are being compromised by others actions.

Maybe I need to ask a different question. In any case, the universe seems to know my needs whether or not I am clear in the asking:

This morning's Abraham Hicks quote:

"Because others cannot vibrate in your experience, they cannot affect the outcome of your experience. They can hold their opinions, but unless their opinion affects your opinion, their opinion matters not at all. A million people could be pushing against you, and it would not negatively affect you unless you push back. They are affecting what happens in their experience. They are affecting their point of attraction -- but it does not affect you unless you push against them. All Is Well"

For today.. For this moment, when I feel the urge to accept responsibility for others failure to deliver, I will instead return to a point of honesty, and speak from the heart. I will also return to a point of gratitude, for the many people in my life that I recognize do create a quality outcome, care about one another and deliver. The problem is not everyone, or even out there, the problem is my attachment to the problem for all it's familiarity.. I am willing for this to no longer be a part of my story. :D

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Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Remembering and Love on September 11, 2001



People matter. They always matter, and always will matter. Sometimes the sensitivity leaves us so raw that we question our ability to recover and restore our connection to a more peaceful, useful source. And yet we can recover, we can restore, we can rebuild, and we can remember.

"We are at war and this will cost us a great deal. Who is responsible and what do we do?" I have seen today the reruns of news, the confusion and chaos of 091101. It rained today in New York. Six years ago 'tore across our history", remarked Mayor Bloomberg, the men and women in official uniforms, and those volunteers that said those are my neighbors, let me help".

Our sense of connection to our humanity, the fragile conditions of fear.. the shortness of life..the compassion.... all was heightened on that day. At 11:45 September 11, 2001, the city, shrouded in a thick debris as the towers, the lives, the business paper work, had fallen and the chaos had it's rise in the form of an overpowering layer of sorrow. We honor 3,000 people lost in this solemn moment- 2,750 in the World Trade Center alone. We can not underestimate that pain, nor can we soothe the feeling of loss and terrific trauma. Emotional trauma was high.. Painful life experience as we came to terms with the volume of disaster that had fallen on our world.

For several years, I have appreciated the gravity of loss, offered solemly on the CNN Memorial. This depth of corporate and personal loss runs deep and lingers long. My neighbors are related to Todd Beamer who perished in Flight 93. To allow another's strength and boldness to affect you in a positive way, is essential and refreshing. My friends and neighbors shared a lovely memorial article written by Todd's former university alma matter. They talk about taking things lightly and not allowing anger to overwhelm our better selves. I love living in proximity to that level of humanitarian maturity.

How do we, as world citizens, bring recovery and appropriate memorial to the lives lost on September 11, 2001, and the lives lost that followed in the name of a "war on terror"?

I know and knew the World Trade Center's long before the attacks that morning. Sun Microsystems had offices, and systems in the World Trade Center, that our Help Desk served, and a few of us had worked a good many weekends responding to help desk issues arising from that area. One of our peers had moved to New York to be a System Administrator in WTC02, just several short months prior.

The pain and sorrow we felt by wanting to stop the pain, stop the bleeding, stop the torture-- was clouded by our duty to do what must be done. Like so many, I felt a responsibility to speak for kindness in response to 091101. Using the talents we possessed to help restore balance, love, and compassion in times of terror was most important for many of us.. in times of devastating loss.

We remember that life is precious as we observe the past, not wishing to shut the door on it, but wishing to give it proper memorial, and learning a new sense of freedom from tyranny, a sense of gravity from the incident, and a renewed sense of purpose towards healing and helping one another.

We can offer more than empty loss. In the day of it's happening and the years that followed the violence becomes difficult to rationalize, to justify, or manage.
  • How will we need to be of service as a result of this tragedy?
  • How do we allow healing to replace heartache?
  • How do we care in a way that people are really transformed with a loving resilience to face whatever life hands us with a relative grace?
Let us not minimize the loss, let us not commercialize ,but respectfully remember and begin to heal and to be an agent of healing.
We can know a new freedom and a new happiness, by remembering, mindful observance of our past, without wishing to shut and bar the door on the discomfort.

We can be an agent of peace and uncommon love.
Let that become the greater power to the depth of our human condition.
We can feel the loss, while lighten-ing the loads of those who hurt more.

"Building a foundation for the future in the here and now. " Renowned Buddhist Monk, Thich Nhat Hahn spoke recently on a visit to CO. "We need to open our eyes in order to get in touch with the paradise of forms and colors."

TIME: Faces of Ground Zero
Dallas Morning News: Richardson TX Former Head of Todd M Beamer still mindful of love!
Facebook Memorials: Remember 9/11. To Heal on September 11.

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Saturday, September 08, 2007

Healing and the Empathic Healer

Defining and managing involves both accepting and managing, or denying and ignoring, the gifts and challenges of empathy. As an empath, it is very clear of being able to receive information that others might need help expressing. The roles and responsibilities of an empath are tricky as we learn to navigate this 'gift', I found this article about male shamanism, gender neutral enough to be useful.

There was never a doubt that I had a gift of empathic proportion, the doubt for me was whether I can use it productively, without taking on the immense sorrows of others, and experiencing their horrors as my own, feeling obligated to listen to every detail until I was clear on what my role would be.

Accepting an empathic existence allows the benefits of an applied framework for addressing human issues of epic proportion. My first experiences with my empathic skills were uncomfortable and personally very painful.. I did not understand my role, or why I was receiving this information. I also did not understand why I had this ability and for that reception, what I was to do with it, other than received advance warnign that unpleasantry was getting ready to happen.

Infancy Stages for me started when I was 6 years old. I was born with 10 living grandparents, which also met a good many of my grandparents died from when I was 6 to around 12. On the moment of their death in the middle of the night I would waken with a sickening feeling of responsibility to "pay attention" because there is "something" that must be done. By the morning when the phone rang to report of a relatives departure I was crying before confirmed knowledge because I knew... and at 6, at some level, I felt responsible for the discomfort.

Teen Stages in my experience occured when I was able to converse with someone I knew who had passed. That it was always about death and loss, was painful to me still. In fact it would feel as if the pain attached with the loss and the sorrow I felt with being able to received the calls from others, but not being able to 'call' those I loved. It felt as if it were all one way communications.

Midlife Crisis Stages were represented by a longer and extended period of "reruns", experiencing others critical moments in greater detail until it was clear what I was to do with the message. Imagine if you can, having a repetitive sort of death in a hospital dream, with all the accompanying feelings of panic, mingled with bright lights and fast moving professionals around you, that feeling of not being done, and knowing you were... So many things left unsaid. This rerun would occur for 7 months until I was clear who it was attributed to, and what I was to help with.

Lessons will repeat until their purpose is clear, or our own "human" condition overshadows it.

So much to be learned about being a better listener so I can more efficiently know what is needed to come to a more peaceful place So reading with interest how others manage to be grounded, and yet useful/practical.

I had a dream about a spiritual healer coming through our neighborhood. In a crimson robe, but barefoot by choice. Why? He explained that this allowed him to sense and heal, as he walks through a path. The exercise of practice involved receiving and allowing a peaceful transformation to be sparked.

I think it is possible to provide relief more efficiently. I know I hear profound spiritual guidance, I wander how much clearer I could be.. How much more useful, if it did not take so long for me toget the message?

Is it possible to sense and heal without knowinug the person who is hurting?
How is it possible to be sensitive enough to respond and heal, but grounded enough to stay healthy?

Thursday, September 06, 2007